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We hope our funeral speech examples will inspire you to write a heartfelt eulogy to honour your loved one.

Delivering a funeral speech can be a daunting task.  Quite apart from the challenge of speaking in front of people while in a highly charged emotional state, the task of actually writing the funeral speech can be overwhelming. 

We are here to help you tackle this important job especially if you are in a state of shock from the grief of losing your loved one.

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Guidelines for Writing Funeral Speeches:

First of all, we have put together the following simple guidelines to help you to think of things to say: 

• Speak from the heart and say how you feel about the person
• Describe the person's qualities
• Talk about their career, jobs, hobbies and passions
• Talk about their relationships with family, friends and colleagues
• Mention things that you inherited or learned from them
• Perhaps mention some people who will be at the funeral
• Mention a couple of funny stories if appropriate
• Keep it real and don't be afraid of mentioning their less good points - you don't have to put them on a pedestal
• Thank people for coming to the funeral and for their support

Next, read the following two pages to give you step by step instructions on writing the eulogy and giving the speech:  

'How to write a eulogy'  

'How to give a eulogy' 

Eulogy Sample Speeches

All the following links are sample eulogies written about real people.  The ones for a father were written by myself and my brother when my Dad died.  The one for a mother was written by my mother (founder of this website) about her own Mum.  

Many of the others have been written for us by guest writers about their own lost loved ones.  

We hope they will give you some ideas for writing your own moving tribute.  

Eulogy Examples for a Father

Eulogy for a Father-in-Law

Eulogy for a Mother

Eulogy for a Mother by a Daughter

Eulogy for a Mother in Law

Eulogy for a Husband

Eulogy for a Wife

Eulogy for a Grandmother

Eulogy for a Grandfather

Eulogy for an Aunt

Eulogies for an Uncle

Two Eulogies for a Brother

One More Eulogy for a Brother

Eulogy for a Sister

Eulogy for a Best Friend

A Humorous Eulogy for a Friend

Eulogy for a Mentor

Eulogy for a Friend

Printable Eulogy Templates

Finally, to help you with your task of writing your funeral speech, we have some printable templates as a guide to write eulogies for adults and for children. 

Print them out and then fill in the information and stories for your own departed loved one.  

Free Eulogy Templates

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How to write a condolence message: 60+ examples & tips.

We've all been there. Someone's friend or family member passes away, and we want to be supportive and show understanding. But we don't know exactly what to say or what to do, and we're left feeling awkward and a bit stuck.

It can be challenging to know just what to say to someone who has lost a loved one, but most people who have experienced a death appreciate hearing from friends and loved ones. We spoke with grief experts whose advice can help us find the right words to write heartfelt sympathy notes and condolence messages.

Writing a condolence message.

A condolence message can take many forms but is understood to be an expression of sympathy when someone dies. Letting a person who has just experienced a loss know that you are thinking of them in their time of need and that you care often means a great deal.

There is no social rule about who can send a condolence message. If you are close with the bereaved, are only an acquaintance, and even when you don't know the relatives but knew the deceased, sending a condolence message is an appropriate way to convey your sympathy and is a thoughtful way to show you care.

When to reach out.

Depending on how close you are to the person experiencing the loss, condolence messages are usually sent as soon as you learn about the death of their loved one . However, it is also appropriate to send a condolence message within a few days of the memorial service or funeral.

The best time to reach out will depend on your relationship, according to both licensed psychologist Laura Louis, Ph.D. , and grief and trauma therapist Ajita Robinson, Ph.D., LCPC .

"Are you a close friend who was notified directly? In that case, reaching out and showing up is appropriate in most instances because the relationship already makes room for this level of 'presence' or involvement," says Robinson. Louis says you can and should reach out immediately when you first find out the loss has occurred. They may or may not respond right away, but they'll know you're there for them.

Louis also recommends reaching out a few weeks after the loss has occurred or a few weeks after the funeral. "As a psychologist, I find that the weeks and months after the funeral is oftentimes when people need the most support because at that point most family and friends have left town," she tells mbg.

"Most importantly, when you reach out, try to understand that the bereaved person(s) is not obligated to respond," Robinson adds. "They are overwhelmed and may not have words to describe what they are feeling or what they need." 

What kind of condolence messages are acceptable to send, and in what way? Is calling appropriate, is texting too informal, or do we send a traditional condolence card? The short answer is, there is no right or wrong way to send a condolence message if the message is heartfelt and supportive.

"Methods of reaching out depend on the level of closeness of the relationship," Louis says.

The general "when and how" to reach out goes like this: If you are a family member or close friend, call or text immediately, and then visit the bereaved at home and either stay with them for as long as you can or be in touch on a daily basis.

If you are social friends or acquaintances who aren't as close, send an email or a text as soon as you find out and reach out again after the "business" of the funeral has ended. If you are work colleagues or knew the deceased but not the relatives, you can send an email or traditional handwritten note or condolence card as soon as you learn of the passing.

According to Robinson, the method of sharing your condolence message is less important than the expectations we have around it and what we say and do when we communicate. "If someone is in the immediate aftermath of a loss, they may not be available (mentally or physically) to answer phone calls, and it certainly is not a time to ask questions that haven't readily been answered such as 'what happened,'" she says.

How to write a condolence message.

There are different kinds of condolence messages for different situations. For instance, what you write in a sympathy note to someone who has lost a friend will differ from the condolence message you write for someone who has lost a family member or partner. The message will also differ depending upon who the recipient is in relation to you.

Below, Robinson and Louis breakdown some examples of where to start your condolence messages and some actions you can take depending upon the situation.

Condolence messages for a friend.

• [Name], I am so sorry that your [parent, sister , cousin, nephew, etc.]­ died. I am thinking of you and your family.
• I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I am always here for you, and I am sending you love and strength during this distressing time.
• I will check in on you, and it's totally OK if you can't respond.
• I am thinking about you and sending my heartfelt sympathies and condolences.
• Although I don't know what you are feeling right now, I do understand what it's like to lose a [friend/family member/etc.].
• Losing a loved one is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. It feels like a cloud has cast a shadow over you. Please know it won’t always be that way. The clouds will clear, and the sun will shine again. When you need some sunlight, I will never be far away. You have my deepest condolences.
• Saying goodbye to someone as important as [insert name] is devastating. Although I cannot replace [him/her/them/etc.], I am here to support you with hugs, a shoulder to cry on, and the reminder that you are not alone.
• My heartfelt condolences for the loss of your [friend/family member/etc.]. May you find comfort in remembering the special moments that brightened your days throughout the years. I hope you allow all the memories you shared to shine in remembrance for years to come.
• As your friend, I wish that I could protect you from anything that might make you sad. Sadly, I cannot protect you from the devastating effects of losing someone so special to you. But I can offer a smile when you need it, a thoughtful ear if you would like to talk, and a hug if you need some comfort. Know that I am thinking of you, and I am very sorry for your loss.
• I am here for you and hope you know that I care deeply about what you are going through and how you are feeling.
• I’m here to support you, no matter what time of day it is. Thinking of you always and sharing my deepest sympathies with you as you go through this hardship.

Condolence messages for a family member.

• [Name], I am so sad to hear that [name] died. I am thinking of you and [names of other affected family members]. I hope that you feel wrapped in love and support. 
• Learning of [Name]'s passing was gut-wrenching. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you are finding strength in your family and the love of your friends; please know we are here for you.
• It is my prayer that our shared memories of [name] will bring comfort during this time.
• Remember you are not alone.
• We will be on our way shortly to help with [tasks, rituals, etc.]
• Know that you are a credit to [name]'s memory. I am sure that [he/she/they/etc.] would be thinking of you fondly and with pride for who you are and how you live your life.
• I am here for you. We'll get through this together.
• My heart is with you during this time of loss and in the days to come.
• You must have so many memories of [name] that you cherish. Their life is an important story to tell. I can help you/us create a journal or scrapbook in celebration of [name] so you/we can always have those memories to comfort you/us.
• I am incredibly sorry to hear that you lost someone that was so special to you, and I know you are in pain. I am here to help ease your burden and support you in whatever way you need. 

Condolence messages for the loss of a partner.

• I tried to find the right words to express just how sorry I am for your loss. Words just don't seem like enough. I'm so sorry.
• I am so sorry that you've lost your life partner, [Name]. I can't imagine how much pain and sorrow you're feeling. I know you will need to grieve their loss and the life you thought you would have together. Although it isn't the same, know that you are not alone as you figure out what life after the loss of [name] looks like. 
• I wish that I could ease your pain and help you heal. I hope that this message at least lets you know that I am thinking of you always. My heartfelt sympathies go out to you in this difficult time.
• In times of sorrow, it is not always easy to see the light. If I can help you find a glimmer by giving thanks for the gift that was the life of [name], please know that is what I am trying to do. [Name] was a truly special person, and I am so grateful that you had [him/her/them/etc.] in your life. May [he/she/they/etc.] be at peace.
• Reentering the world can be hard during times of loss. I will take those first few steps with you and help you move forward. We can travel the way forward together. I send my deepest condolences and sympathies for your loss.
• Grief is so personal and a unique experience for each one of us. Feelings can arise without warning at the sound of a favorite song, picture, or special place. It can be overwhelming when that happens. If you ever feel like talking about your feelings or have these experiences, I am here to share in your grief and support you through it.
• If you need a friend, I am here for you. If you need quiet, I am happy to be your peace. If you need to talk, I am listening. If you want to be alone, I can wait. Please know that someone is ready to help and thinking of you as you grieve.
• It's difficult to imagine moving on with life after losing someone so close to you. I know that you may just want to shut out the world and retreat. Just know that I can be a shoulder for you to lean on, and I am here for you.

Religious messages. 

For loved ones who find strength in their faith, it can be useful to find passages from religious texts or prayers for healing and recovery in light of a tragedy.

• I will keep you in my prayers as you go through this tough time.
• I am sorry to hear the loss of your loved one. May the Good Lord bless you and keep you and give you inner peace as you face this trying time.
• It's my prayer that God's words bring you comfort during this difficult time.
• May God comfort you and bring you healing for the pain of losing a loved one. Please accept our heartfelt condolences.
• Life without your beloved [insert name] will never quite be the same. We pray that God will comfort your heart and fill your soul with love and peace.
• Praying for you and your family during this challenging time. I hope you feel the power of God's love and presence in your lives.
• "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die." John 11:25,26
• "Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning." Psalm 30:5 

Messages to offer help.

Try to avoid saying "call me if you need me" or "what do you need" because the bereaved will not ask for your help, Louis says. Instead, show your love by giving specific offers:

• Please remember I am available day or night.
• I can pick up/drop off your kids.
• I can wash your clothes.
• What is your favorite dish? I would love to bring you some food.
• I know that life looks so different, and you're still figuring out a new normal. I am available to bring [food item] to you on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I remember that you love Taco Tuesdays. Does that work for you this Tuesday?
• I'm headed to the dry cleaners. I'll take your clothes too.
• I am going to the grocery store and will pick things up for you; let's make a list.

"The key to offering help is that it needs to be practical and doesn't add another task to the bereaved person's plate," Robinson adds. "Generic statements like 'I am here if you need anything' forces the bereaved person to make yet another decision that they likely won't have the capacity for."

Tips to keep in mind:

Manage your expectations..

"It is important to manage our expectations when we are reaching out to someone who is grieving," says Robinson. She says it's important not to get upset with them if they don't respond to your condolence message, respond in a timely manner, or if their response isn't aligned with what you were expecting.

Be a memory keeper.

Remind the bereaved person of what the person they lost stood for, their values, and the lessons they learned from them, says Louis, and encourage them to hold on to those things. Their lost loved one will continue to live on through them.

Consider actions instead of just words.

Keep in mind that messages are not always verbal. Behaviors can speak volumes, such as holding your friend's hand. Sleeping over can also be helpful, especially in situations where this may be the first time they have slept alone.

Be proactive with offering help.

Robinson recommends trying to avoid making generic offers like "call me if you need me" or "what do you need?"—because they likely will not ask for anything. When a friend is depressed , they may not have the energy for completing basic tasks, but at the same time, they likely don't want to be a burden or even know what to ask for, Robinson explains. That means, as a concerned friend who wants to help, it's important to be proactive with providing support instead of waiting to be asked, she says.

Offer specifics, Louis recommends, like bringing over food or groceries. Go over to do their laundry. Ask if they'd like you to sleep over for a night or two.

Expect and accept mood swings.

When a person is grieving, especially when they first experience loss, their emotions will be all over the map ; they may be fine one moment, and the next they are overcome by emotions. This is all part of the normal grieving process . The best thing you can do is to support them through the emotional highs and lows and give them the space to experience and express a full range of emotions.

Avoid giving advice.

It is best to avoid giving advice about what a grieving person "should or shouldn't do" in the situation. Advice during times of acute emotional distress, though nearly always well intentioned, sometimes has the unexpected outcome of making the bereaved person feel worse. A more effective approach would be to let them know you recognize their loss and you support how they feel and whatever actions they need to take to heal on their terms.

Listen without assumption.

Sometimes the best and only thing you can offer to someone who is grieving is a listening ear, says Louis. Assure the person that it is OK to talk about their feelings. Although you cannot erase the pain of their loss, you can provide a great deal of comfort just listening.

Don't pressure people to move on faster.

"While grief is universal, our expression and experience is individual and unique to each of us. We want to be mindful not to try to 'move' people along in their grief," Robinson advises. "Grief is a lifelong journey, which we often revisit because of holidays, anniversaries, and other milestone events. We never really move on from grief ; instead, we learn to move forward with it." 

Just be there.

"Just be there," says Louis. "Sometimes people think they need to have the right thing to say. You don't always need to talk. Sometimes your presence is enough."

There is no timeline for grief. People who are grieving need time to heal, so be patient and encouraging, and most importantly, be there.

What not to say in a sympathy card.

There are things you should not say in a sympathy card and subjects you will want to avoid. Even though well meaning, sometimes certain sentiments will backfire and not be taken as intended. Our experts offer some specific examples of language to avoid, including:

• God knows best.
• I know what you are feeling.
• God is going to give you more than what you lost.
• It's for the best.
• They are in a better place.
• It just takes time.
• You can always remarry. / You'll meet someone else.

The takeaway.

Writing condolence messages can be challenging when you are confronted with loss, pain, grief, and other difficult emotions. But these heartfelt messages are an effective way to show the people in your life that you are there for them and that you care about them. Feeling uplifted and supported by friends and family is often the first step on the path toward healing and learning to move forward after a loss.

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How to Deliver a Heartfelt Funeral Speech: A Step-by-Step Guide

Funeral speeches play a crucial role in honoring the life of a loved one who has passed away. They provide solace to grieving family members and friends, while also sharing the essence of the person’s life and their impact on those around them. A well-crafted eulog y captures the unique qualities of the deceased, allowing attendees to relive fond memories and celebrate the individual’s life.

Writing and delivering a heartfelt eulogy can be a daunting task. The pressure to create the “best eulogy ever” can be overwhelming, especially when you’re dealing with your own grief. The internet is filled with various funeral eulogy examples, from funny eulogy examples that highlight the person’s wit to deeply emotional tributes. Famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks have set the bar high.

Finding the perfect balance between honoring the person’s life and providing comfort to loved ones can be challenging. In this step-by-step guide, we will explore how to write and deliver a heartfelt funeral speech, drawing inspiration from eulogy examples and famous eulogies to help you pay tribute to your beloved family member or close friend.

II. Understanding the Purpose of a Funeral Speech

A. honoring the deceased.

A funeral speech is an opportunity to honor the deceased by highlighting their unique qualities, accomplishments, and the impact they had on the lives of others. The best eulogy ever would capture the essence of the person’s life and character, creating a lasting tribute that resonates with attendees. Famous eulogies, such as Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks, serve as inspiring examples of how to pay homage to a loved one.

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B. Comforting the bereaved

One of the primary purposes of a funeral speech is to provide comfort and solace to the bereaved family and friends. Sharing fond memories, funny eulogy examples, and heartfelt stories can help lighten the atmosphere and offer consolation to those in mourning. A well-crafted eulogy helps celebrate the person’s life while acknowledging the pain of their passing, striking the perfect balance between grief and happy memories.

C. Sharing memories and stories

A funeral speech allows you to share personal experiences and stories about the deceased, creating a tapestry of memories that paint a vivid picture of their life. Drawing from short eulogy examples and famous eulogies like Mona Simpson’s eulogy for Steve Jobs and Frank Oz’s eulogy for Jim Henson can help illustrate the impact one person can have on the lives of many. By sharing these stories, a funeral speech can create a sense of connection and closeness among the attendees, reminding us all of the special bond we shared with our beloved family member or close friend.

III. Gathering Information and Memories

A. talking to family and friends.

Before diving into writing the best eulogy ever, it’s essential to gather information and collect memories from family and friends of the deceased. This can help provide a more comprehensive understanding of the person’s life, character, and impact on others. Conversations with close friends and family members can reveal heartwarming stories and funny eulogy examples that might not be known otherwise. These anecdotes can help paint a vivid picture of the deceased, making the eulogy more authentic and relatable.

B. Reflecting on your own experiences with the deceased

In addition to gathering information from others, take the time to reflect on your own experiences and earliest memories with the deceased. This will allow you to recall fond memories and special moments you shared together. Consider how much one person’s life has influenced your own and what lessons you’ve learned from them. Personal stories and experiences can make the eulogy more genuine and create a deeper connection with the audience.

C. Organizing your thoughts

Once you’ve collected stories and memories from family, friends, and your own experiences, it’s time to organize your thoughts and determine the structure of your eulogy. Review various funeral eulogy examples, including famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks. Draw inspiration from these examples while keeping your eulogy unique and tailored to the person you are honoring.

As you organize your thoughts, consider incorporating elements from short eulogy examples, such as quotes, poems, or specific phrases that capture the essence of the person’s character. For instance, Cher shared a beautiful eulogy at Sonny Bono’s British memorial service, where she provided hope and comfort through her words.

By combining the gathered information, personal experiences, and inspiration from various eulogy examples, you can create a heartfelt tribute that honors the memory of your beloved family member or close friend.

IV. Structuring Your Funeral Speech

A. the opening: setting the tone.

Start your eulogy with an opening that sets the tone for the entire speech. You may choose to begin with a quote that represents the deceased, a personal anecdote, or simply an expression of love and admiration. Take inspiration from famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, or Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks. The opening should capture the essence of the person’s character and create an emotional connection with the audience.

B. The body: sharing stories and memories

Personal anecdotes.

In the body of your funeral speech, share personal anecdotes that illustrate the person’s life and the impact they had on others. These stories can be drawn from your own experiences, as well as those shared by family and friends. Personal anecdotes help paint a vivid picture of the deceased and offer a glimpse into their personality and values.

Humor and light moments

While grief is a natural part of any funeral speech, incorporating humor and light moments can provide relief and comfort to the bereaved. Funny eulogy examples, such as John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman or Frank Oz’s eulogy for Jim Henson, demonstrate how laughter can be a powerful healing tool. Be sure to balance humor with sensitivity, ensuring that your jokes and anecdotes are appropriate for the occasion.

Lessons learned and values cherished

Share the lessons learned and values cherished by the deceased throughout their life. This can include their beliefs, passions, and the wisdom they imparted on others. Referencing short eulogy examples or famous eulogies like Mona Simpson’s eulogy for Steve Jobs can provide inspiration for this section of your speech.

C. The closing: expressing gratitude and hope

In the closing of your funeral speech, express gratitude for the time spent with the deceased and the happy memories you shared. Offer hope for the future by sharing how the person’s life will continue to impact others, even in their absence. Use powerful words and phrases to create a lasting impression, aiming to make your eulogy one of the best eulogies ever.

Drawing from funeral eulogy examples, like Cher’s beautiful eulogy at Sonny Bono’s British memorial service, can help you find the perfect balance of heartfelt emotion and hope. By incorporating elements of famous eulogies and personal stories, your funeral speech will pay tribute to your beloved family member or close friend while providing comfort and solace to those in attendance.

V. Tips for Writing a Heartfelt Eulogy

A. be authentic and genuine.

When writing a eulogy, it’s essential to be authentic and genuine in your words and emotions. The best eulogy ever is one that comes from the heart and truly reflects the person’s life and character. Draw inspiration from funeral eulogy examples and famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks, but make sure to infuse your own unique voice and perspective.

B. Use descriptive language

Using descriptive language in your eulogy helps paint a vivid picture of the person’s life and experiences. By employing vivid imagery and evocative words, you can bring memories to life and create a more immersive experience for the audience. Descriptive language can enhance even short eulogy examples, making them more memorable and impactful.

C. Focus on the positive aspects of the deceased’s life

While acknowledging grief and loss is important, focusing on the positive aspects of the deceased’s life can provide comfort and solace to those mourning. Share fond memories, happy moments, and the positive qualities of the person to celebrate their life and legacy. Funny eulogy examples, like Frank Oz’s eulogy for Jim Henson or John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, show the power of humor in highlighting the positive aspects of a person’s life.

D. Keep it concise and organized

An effective eulogy is concise and well-organized, guiding the audience through the person’s life and experiences while maintaining their attention. To achieve this, make use of keywords and phrases that capture the essence of the person and their impact, such as “fond memories,” “beloved mother,” “best friend,” or “so much fun.” Drawing inspiration from famous eulogies and eulogy examples can help you structure your speech and ensure that it remains engaging and focused. By following these tips, you can create a beautiful eulogy that pays tribute to your loved one and leaves a lasting impression on those who hear it.

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VI. Preparing for Delivery

A. practice reading your speech.

To ensure that your eulogy flows smoothly and resonates with the audience, practice reading it aloud several times before the funeral. This will help you become familiar with the text, allowing you to convey your message with confidence. As you read, consider the pacing and tone of your speech, ensuring that it aligns with the examples of great eulogies you have researched.

B. Anticipate emotions and have a backup plan

Delivering a eulogy can be an emotional experience, especially when recounting fond memories of a close friend or family member. Anticipate the emotions that may arise during your speech and have a backup plan in place, such as pausing to compose yourself or asking someone else to continue reading on your behalf if needed. By preparing for these moments, you can ensure that your tribute remains heartfelt and genuine.

C. Speak slowly and clearly

When delivering your eulogy, speak slowly and clearly to ensure that your message is easily understood by all attendees. As you share stories and memories, use descriptive language and keywords like “best eulogy ever,” “funny eulogy examples,” and “fond memories” to paint a vivid picture of the person’s life. Drawing from famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks can help you find inspiration for your delivery style. By speaking with clarity and conviction, you can create a powerful tribute that honors the memory of your loved one and leaves a lasting impression on those present at the funeral.

VII. Delivering the Funeral Speech

A. establish a connection with the audience.

Begin your speech by establishing a connection with the audience. Acknowledge the shared sense of loss and grief, and express your gratitude for their presence. This will create an atmosphere of empathy and support, setting the stage for your eulogy.

B. Maintain eye contact and use body language

As you deliver your speech, maintain eye contact with the audience and use appropriate body language to convey your emotions. This will help you engage with the attendees and create a more immersive experience. Be mindful of your posture and gestures, ensuring that they reflect the tone and content of your eulogy.

C. Be mindful of your tone and pace

When delivering your funeral speech, be conscious of your tone and pace. Use keywords like “best eulogy ever,” “funeral eulogy examples,” and “fond memories” to guide your delivery. Draw inspiration from famous eulogies such as Earl Spencer’s eulogy for Princess Diana, John Cleese’s eulogy for Graham Chapman, and Oprah Winfrey’s eulogy for Rosa Parks. Speak slowly and clearly, allowing your words to resonate with the audience.

As you share stories and happy memories, adjust your tone to match the emotion of each anecdote. Strive to strike a perfect balance between honoring the person and acknowledging grief, taking cues from examples like Mona Simpson’s eulogy for Steve Jobs and Frank Oz’s eulogy for Jim Henson.

In conclusion, delivering a heartfelt eulogy is an important task in honoring the life of a close friend or family member. By following these tips and drawing inspiration from famous eulogies and eulogy examples, you can create a beautiful tribute that captures the essence of the person’s life, character, and special bond with their loved ones. Remember to be authentic, use descriptive language, and pay tribute to the person’s life and fond memories while providing hope and comfort to those in attendance.

VIII. Example Eulogies

  a. sample funeral speech for a parent.

Good afternoon, everyone.

Today, we come together in shared sorrow and collective admiration to bid farewell to a wonderful woman, my beloved mother, Susie. We gather here not only to mourn her passing but, more importantly, to celebrate the truly exceptional life she lived and the countless lives she touched in her time with us.

Susie was a woman of endless charm, warmth, and resilience – characteristics that deeply influenced my upbringing and those of my siblings. She had an uncanny ability to bring a sense of joy and peace to any room she walked into, even in times of chaos and confusion. With her radiant smile, she had a way of making people feel seen, heard, and appreciated. She was our North Star, the one who always guided us, always there to help us find our way back when we were lost.

When I think of my mother, a few memories immediately surface.

There was the time, in the depths of a harsh winter, when the neighborhood children were all huddled inside their homes, escaping the frosty chill. On that day, Susie gathered us all for an impromptu snowman-building competition. It wasn’t about the competition, but the unity, the shared laughter, the frostbitten fingers, and the warm cups of hot cocoa after that made it memorable. It was an embodiment of what she was to us all – a beacon of warmth, love, and unity.

Then there was the instance when I came home heartbroken from a failed math test. I remember the tears streaming down my face, the feeling of utter disappointment in myself. But Mom, she didn’t judge or criticize. She held me close and said, “In life, my dear, it’s not about the mistakes we make but how we learn from them.” And with her unwavering support, we tackled those equations together until they were no longer foreign to me. That was Susie, always there to pick us up when we stumbled, to turn our setbacks into comebacks, to show us that failing wasn’t the end but rather a chance to rise stronger.

Susie was also the core of our family, the glue that held us all together. She kept us rooted, reminding us about the importance of love, respect, and understanding in the family. Despite her struggles, despite the storms life threw at her, she never faltered in her dedication to her children and her unwavering faith in us. She was our greatest cheerleader, our most profound teacher, and our fiercest protector.

Losing her has created a void in our hearts, a silence in our lives that cannot be filled. But as we grieve, we also remember. We remember her laugh, echoing in the corners of our home. We remember her wisdom, imprinted deep within our hearts. And we remember her love, a love so powerful and so encompassing that it will continue to guide and strengthen us, even though she’s no longer physically with us.

As we say our final goodbyes today, let us remember Susie for the remarkable woman she was. Let’s honor her memory by embodying the values she taught us: compassion, resilience, love, and unity.

Susie, our dear mother, you are gone but never forgotten. Your spirit will live on within each of us, a guiding light in the dark, a comforting whisper in the wind, a constant reminder of the strength and love we carry within us, because of you.

Thank you for everything, Mom. We love you, and we will miss you always.

 B. Sample funeral speech for a sibling

Ladies and Gentlemen,

Today, we stand united in grief and solidarity, as we bid farewell to a life that touched ours in ways words can barely encapsulate. A life that was too short yet immensely vibrant, filled with love, laughter, and countless shared moments. Today, we remember my brother, my confidante, my friend, Jack.

Growing up with Jack was nothing short of an adventure. He was the peanut butter to my jelly, the yin to my yang. As kids, we were inseparable. We shared not just a room, but countless secrets, dreams, laughter, and even the occasional sibling squabble. But through all the highs and lows, there was always an underlying foundation of unwavering brotherly love.

One story that springs to mind, encapsulating the spirit of Jack, was our great ‘Treehouse Escapade’. We were just about ten and twelve then, and had set our hearts on building the perfect treehouse in the large oak tree at the end of our garden. We had no idea what we were doing, armed only with a sketch on a crumpled piece of paper and the confidence that only children possess. It took us the entire summer, hammers slipping, nails bending, and more than one accidental thump on a thumb. But Jack, ever the optimist, would laugh off the blunders, transforming our little project into a whirlwind of joy.

That treehouse wasn’t architecturally sound, nor was it a spectacle to behold. But it was our haven, a testament to our shared dreams, our determination, and the magic that Jack brought into every task he undertook. He was always the beacon guiding us towards laughter and fun, turning even the most mundane activities into cherished memories.

Jack had a heart larger than life itself. He was the first to lend a hand to anyone in need, the first to cheer you up when you were down. His sense of humor was legendary, his laughter infectious. When he walked into a room, you couldn’t help but feel the energy change – brighter, lighter, better.

But Jack wasn’t just my older brother; he was my mentor, my guide, my protector. I remember when I was about to head off to college, nervous and unsure of what the future held. It was Jack who sat me down and said, “In life, you’re going to face challenges and make mistakes, but always remember that it’s these experiences that shape us. Embrace them. Learn from them. And remember, no matter where you are, you’ll always have a piece of home with you.”

Losing Jack feels like a chapter of our shared book has abruptly ended. Yet, I find solace in the memories we created together. Every shared joke, every heart-to-heart conversation, every shared dream, and even the bittersweet tears, are all fragments of a beautiful mosaic that depicts a bond that can never be broken.

Jack, my dear brother, I am grateful for every moment we shared, for every laugh, every story, every life lesson. You were my north star in the darkest nights, my compass when I lost my way, my anchor in the roughest storms.

As we say our final goodbyes, we carry your spirit with us, your joy, your kindness, your unwavering zest for life. Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure. You are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure.

Until we meet again, Jack, thank you for being the best brother I could have ever asked for. I love you, and I will carry you in my heart always.

 C. Sample funeral speech for a friend

Dear Friends and Family,

Today we gather to remember a man whose life was as vibrant and dynamic as the waves of the ocean – forever in motion, brimming with energy, and touching the lives of everyone he met. A man who, in his time on earth, defined what it truly meant to be a friend, a confidante, a brother in spirit. We are here to celebrate the life of Mark.

Mark was more than a friend to all of us. He was the epitome of an adventurer, a soul that was forever curious, forever willing to explore the unknown, yet always ready to provide the comfort of familiarity when it was most needed.

One of the most unforgettable adventures we shared together was our unplanned road trip. I still remember that day. It was the kind of day when you feel the world weighing heavy on your shoulders. Mark turned up at my doorstep with nothing more than a mischievous grin and his beat-up old van, affectionately nicknamed “The Wanderer.” He looked at me and said, “The world is wide, and we are young. Let’s go get lost to find ourselves.”

What was supposed to be a day’s escape turned into a week of spontaneity. We slept under the stars, got lost more times than I can count, sang at the top of our lungs to songs we barely knew the lyrics to, and shared stories that made us laugh until our stomachs hurt. The journey didn’t just lighten the load I was carrying back then; it showed me the value of friendship, freedom, and living in the moment. That was Mark, a tornado of spontaneity, pulling you into an adventure you never knew you needed.

Yet, despite his love for adventure, Mark also had a calmness about him that was almost infectious. He had an uncanny ability to quiet the storm inside you with just a few words or a reassuring smile. He was my confidante, the one I could call at 2 AM to discuss life’s quandaries or the latest episode of a TV show we were both hooked on. He knew when to offer advice and when to simply listen, offering silence as a refuge from the chaos of the world.

Mark, my dear friend, your passing leaves a void in our lives that can never be filled. Your laughter, your spirit of adventure, your comforting presence – they are now but cherished memories, echoes of a friendship that will continue to live on in my heart.

As we say our final goodbyes, we remember you not with tears of sadness but with smiles, recalling the joy and happiness you brought into our lives. We remember you as you were – a beautiful soul, an adventurer, a beacon of light in our sometimes-dark world.

In honor of Mark, let’s not dwell in the sorrow of his departure. Instead, let’s celebrate the life he lived and the person he was. Let’s remember his unquenchable thirst for life, his deep and resounding laughter, and his unwavering loyalty as a friend.

Mark, you were the echo in the forest, the breeze on a summer day, and now the whisper in our hearts, forever reminding us of the bond we shared. Though we part ways today, the footprints you left on our hearts will remain. You will be greatly missed, my dear friend. Rest in peace, until we meet again.

Thank you, Mark, for the memories, the adventures, and most importantly, your friendship. We love you and will remember you always.

IX. Conclusion

A. the impact of a heartfelt funeral speech.

A well-crafted and heartfelt funeral speech can have a profound impact on the audience, providing solace and comfort during a time of grief. By incorporating elements from famous eulogies like Earl Spencer’s, John Cleese’s, and Oprah Winfrey’s, as well as drawing from short eulogy examples and funny eulogy examples, you can create a powerful tribute that captures the essence of the person’s life and character. A funeral speech that shares fond memories and celebrates the entire life of a loved one can be remembered as the best eulogy ever, leaving a lasting impression on those who hear it.

B. Final thoughts on honoring the memory of a loved one

Honoring the memory of a close friend or family member through a funeral speech is a significant responsibility. Writing a eulogy that strikes the perfect balance between paying tribute to the person’s life and acknowledging grief can be an emotional and challenging process. However, by focusing on the person’s life, their impact on others, and the fond memories shared, you can create a beautiful eulogy that truly honors their memory. Remember to draw inspiration from examples like Steve Jobs’ eulogy by Mona Simpson or Sonny Bono’s eulogy by Cher, and always speak from the heart. In doing so, you will not only pay tribute to your loved one but also provide hope, comfort, and healing to all those in attendance.

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What makes the best eulogy?

The best eulogy is one that captures the essence of the person’s life, character, and impact on others while providing comfort to those in attendance. Key elements of the best eulogy include:

• Authenticity: Speak from the heart and share genuine emotions and experiences.
• Personal anecdotes: Share stories that highlight the person’s personality, values, and relationships.
• Balance: Strike a balance between honoring the person’s life and acknowledging grief.
• Positive aspects: Focus on the positive aspects of the deceased’s life, including accomplishments, passions, and happy memories.
• Emotional connection: Establish an emotional connection with the audience by using descriptive language and conveying empathy.
• Organization: Structure the eulogy with a clear beginning, middle, and end to guide the audience through the person’s life and experiences.

What is the best speech for a funeral?

The best speech for a funeral is one that pays tribute to the deceased while offering comfort and solace to the grieving family and friends. This can be achieved by:

• Sharing personal stories, anecdotes, and memories of the person.
• Focusing on the positive aspects of their life and the impact they had on others.
• Acknowledging the grief and loss felt by those in attendance.
• Using appropriate humor and light moments to provide relief and healing.
• Ensuring the speech is concise, well-organized, and delivered with sincerity and emotion.

What is the best closing line for a eulogy?

The best closing line for a eulogy is one that leaves a lasting impression, encapsulates the person’s life and legacy, and offers hope or inspiration to the audience. Some examples of powerful closing lines are:

• “May we carry [deceased’s name] memory in our hearts, allowing their spirit to live on through us.”
• “As we say our final goodbye, let us remember [deceased’s name] life and the love they brought to all who knew them.”
• “In the words of [deceased’s name], ‘Live fully, love deeply, and make a difference.’ Let us honor their memory by following this guiding principle.”
• “Though our hearts are heavy with grief, we find solace in the beautiful memories of [deceased’s name] and the impact they had on our lives.”

Choose a closing line that reflects the person’s character and values, and leaves the audience with a sense of comfort and inspiration.

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By:  Susan Dugdale  

How do you begin to write a meaningful eulogy?

And how is it possible to say everything you want to about a person's entire life story in a few, very brief, minutes?

Both those questions are natural responses to having a eulogy to write for a funeral service.

Grief, together with the desire to honor your loved-one the best way you can, and the pressure of a tight timeframe, can make it feel like an almost insurmountable challenge. 

That's why reading what others have written in similar circumstances helps a great deal.

What's on this page:

Access to 70+ eulogy examples, the whys and wherefores of the collection: its background, a submission form to use if you want to contribute a eulogy and links to other useful pages on my site.

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• I want to browse and read the example eulogies in the order they have been received . (The most recent is at the top of the list.)
• I want to submit a eulogy I have written .
• I want to read specific types of eulogies : eulogies for mothers, fathers, an older brother, a dear friend...
• I want help with the eulogy writing process.

About these eulogy examples

I am fortunate to be able to make available to you a large, and growing, collection of funeral speech examples. 

They've been written by people from all over the world, who are just like you and me. They too have family and friends whom they care for deeply.

Look and you'll find examples of eulogies for mothers, fathers, grandparents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, mentors, colleagues, a close friend..., in short: loved ones.

The people who've written them have shared them to help people like yourself. Because they've been where you are now with a funeral speech to prepare, they know how it feels to be searching for inspiration, trying to find a starting point.

Some of the speeches are short. Some of them are funny. All of them are heartfelt, and they appear in the order I received them.

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If you're looking for an example of a eulogy for a particular kind of person, and don't want to browse your way through the chronologically ordered list below, use these links to go straight to a collection of:

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• eulogies for  grandmothers
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I've grouped all the speeches I've received through this page according to their type on a new page here: sample eulogies . Whenever a eulogy is submitted, I add its link to the category it belongs to.

The story behind this collection of eulogies

It began with two funeral speeches  I had written. 

Almost as soon as I put them online, they attracted an enormous number of visitors.

It was then I realized the need for more.  

I also knew my examples would not answer everybody's needs.

The one for my sister was different in approach.

The one for my friend and next-door neighbor was not what a grieving person with a eulogy speech to write for a close family member really wanted to see. 

My two were definitely not enough! 

Offering a wider variety of funeral speeches 

To be really useful there needed to be a wider variety of funeral speeches. We needed eulogies for mothers, fathers, sons, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, colleagues, friends, people who died unexpectedly and suddenly...

And we needed them to reflect the diverse countries and faiths of the people visiting the site.

I decided to ask for more. Lo and behold, they began to arrive through my   eulogy submission form below.

Help to make writing a eulogy easier.

After you've read a few eulogy examples, and you want help to prepare your own speech you'll find it here:  how to write a good eulogy .

The article has step-by-step instructions, examples, a very useful free 15-page printable eulogy planning template to download , as well as comprehensive answers for 13 FAQs about eulogies :

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• how do you end a eulogy ?
• do you read a eulogy or memorize it?
• how do you stop from crying when you give a eulogy ?

Why do people share a deeply personal speech?

The people sending their eulogies to me to publish fully appreciate that writing a funeral speech under pressure can be a difficult, sad and lonely task - sometimes one of the hardest things they've ever done.

They know from experience having examples to read can lessen that burden. It's a good way of starting to find the right words to tell their own personal stories and share their favorite memories about a person they have loved.

Theirs is a kind and generous act, one that's been repeated over 70 times already. 

Wonderfully, some of the people who've come searching for help to write their own eulogy, have returned to share what they've written.

(Read Craig's comment below his eulogy for his Grandmother, Bertha  or Byrona's below her  eulogy for her Dad  for verification.

Both were helped by funeral speeches they found here and wanted what they had written to assist others in the same way.)

So, if you've written a eulogy...

Would you consider sharing it.

It would help others enormously.

Every day people look for tips on how to a write eulogy or to find  eulogy examples  to read. I know because I see it reflected in my website visitor statistics.

I also know because of the comments people leave under speeches.  They are so very grateful to have found a eulogy expressing how they feel.

For instance, see the comments on Eulogy for my Son , on Eulogy for my Grandmother - Bertha , or Sharon Catley's poem for her Mother,  Journey's End .   

You know how it generally is with a speech of this sort. Typically, there is not much time to prepare, and you want to get it right.

Reading what others have done helps in the best possible way.

These eulogies inspire and give people the courage to do what they need to do.

Despite our differences what we all have in common is the desire to speak about our loved ones the very best way we can. 

The more examples we have, the more likely a person is going to find a speech that resonates and meets their needs.

You too could help by submitting the eulogy you've written. It's very simple to do.

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Writing & delivering a eulogy, giving a short funeral speech.

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Speaking at a funeral can be stressful and heartbreaking, but it’s also a chance to express your condolences and even give a eulogy honoring the person who died. If you’ve never done this before, don’t be intimidated. Expressing sympathy and speaking are things that anyone can do. Keep reading to learn how to express your condolences for someone’s loss, or deliver a eulogy or speech at a funeral that will remind everyone of how much their loved one meant to them, and to you.

Things You Should Know

• Express condolences to friends and family with statements like “I’m sorry for your loss,” “You’re in my prayers,” and “If you need anything, I’m here.”
• If you’re giving a eulogy, talk about the person’s life, personality, and relationships. Include sweet, inspiring, or funny anecdotes, and make it 5-10 minutes long.
• For shorter speeches, tell a story illustrating the connection you shared with the person who died. Choose something personal and special to share.

• “Please accept my condolences” (if you want to be a bit more formal). [2] X Research source
• “My deepest sympathies to you and your family.”
• “I’m heartbroken for your loss.”

• “Words can’t express how sorry I am for your loss.”
• “I’m stunned. I’m so, so sorry.”
• “This is such a loss. I just can’t believe it.”

• “They were a wonderful neighbor”
• “They were such an important member of the community.”
• “I’m so grateful to have had them in my life.”

• “May God comfort you and your family,”
• “God be with you,” and so on.
• “My heart is with you in this time of loss” (if you prefer something more secular). [6] X Research source

• “They were a great leader.”
• “I learned so much from them.”
• “They were such an inspiration.”

• “It was a privilege to serve alongside them” (if you served together and had similar ranks).
• “It was an honor to serve under their command” (if they were your superior officer).
• I’m grateful for their service to my country/community” (if you’re not a service member, or didn’t serve with them).

• “Reach out to me anytime, for anything” (to show that you’ll still be emotionally supportive and available in the future).
• “If you need to talk, I’m only a text or phone call away.”
• “My door is always open.”

• A funny or heartfelt memory you shared together.
• The day you met, or your earliest memory of them.
• A story they shared with you about their life

• Jokes they loved to tell.
• What they were like when they were young.
• The way they raised their children (if they had any)
• Their relationship with their partner or spouse
• Things they did with friends (vacations, outings, pranks, and so on).
• Their careers (especially major accomplishments or honors)
• How hard they fought while they were sick (if they passed away from an illness)

• Keep your closing remarks under 2 minutes long.
• The eulogy should last 5-10 minutes, in total.
• Write down the eulogy and bring a copy with you. Read from it if needed.

• How you met the person who died.
• A funny moment you shared.
• A trip or adventure you went on together.
• An activity or hobby you both enjoyed.
• A time when they helped or supported you.
• Memories from when you were both young.

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A Guide to Writing a Funeral Speech: 8 Heartfelt Examples

By: Author Camila Steinfeld

Posted on Last updated: October 20, 2023

Categories Writing Prompts

With the passing of a loved one comes the responsibility of making arrangements for their funeral. This includes deciding who will be saying a funeral speech at the funeral service.

Saying a funeral speech is not something that should be undertaken unprepared. It requires some forethought and planning.

A funeral is an emotional occasion and delivering a speech, unprepared, in front of the congregation is a recipe for disaster = one that will not soon be forgiven.

The ‘Do’s and Don’ts’ of a Funeral Speech

When you sit down to decide what you’re going to say in your eulogy speech, there are a few factors you need to take into consideration.

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In writing your speech , it’s important to demonstrate the personal relationship you shared with the deceased. It’s necessary that you give the congregation an insight into the person’s life as it related to your own.

If you want to relate a situation or event that occurred in the deceased’s life, do so tastefully.

Your aim is not to deliver a stand-up comedy routine, but rather, a poignant and potentially somewhat humorous view of who the deceased was and what they meant to you.

A funeral speech is difficult to deliver if you’re feeling over-emotional. You cannot afford to break down and cry in the moment.  

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That’s not to say that you cannot show your emotions and grief. But you must be able to get through the speech you have prepared.

Finally, don’t use a funeral speech as an opportunity to settle old scores or tell others about unfinished business between yourself and the deceased.

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Here are some examples of a funeral speech that celebrates the deceased’s life but at the same time expresses the grief of the speaker.

A Eulogy for a Mother

The last thing I imagined myself doing today was delivering the eulogy at my mother’s funeral.

Despite the fact that she was ill, and we knew her passing was inevitable, it has still come as a shock to us as a family.

My mother was a phenomenal woman who possessed reserves of strength and patience that seemed to be infinite.

We, her children, were her pride and joy; she regarded us as the greatest accomplishment of her life. That doesn’t mean that raising us was easy, nor always enjoyable.

My siblings and I gave her a lot of gray hairs along the way. But, regardless of our misdeeds, she would always find it in her heart to forgive us.

And not only that, she would have enough faith in us to believe that we would not transgress again.

One of my fondest memories of my mother is watching her sit down and relax after a long day. She worked hard at her job and came home to run her household. That meant that she had very little time to herself.

And even with the little ‘me time’ she had, she never used it for herself. She’d always be knitting or sewing or making something that we needed.

What our family lacked in money, my mother more than made up for with love.

My mother was the heart of our home, the center of our universe, and the greatest example of unconditional love we could’ve hoped to have.

A Eulogy for a Father

My father was a quiet man. He seldom said much. That’s why, when he did have something to say, we listened.

That may make him sound like he was distant, but nothing could be further from the truth.

He was always interested in what was going on in our lives and was extraordinarily proud of our achievements.

Whether it was scoring a home run in a Little League baseball game or getting a bursary for a university, he delighted in our successes.

As a child, one of the places I felt the safest was in the arms of my father. In fact, right now, that’s the place I wish I was more than anything else.

He was a hardworking man who set a great example for my siblings and me. We learned from him that, regardless of the task, it was not worth doing if you didn’t want to do it properly.

My father had an incredibly dry sense of humor. It took us a while to grasp it because, as children, we didn’t get it.

But as we grew up, we began to understand his wit and laugh at the things he said.  

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He presided over family dinners with a quiet dignity that spoke of a patriarch who took that responsibility seriously.

He was the mediator in our disputes as siblings and always took the high road, refusing to take sides.

He’s left a gap in our lives that we can’t even begin to contemplate filling.

A Funeral Speech for a Best Friend

Jennifer and I met, two gap-toothed first-grader’s, on the first day of school – ever.

Something drew us to each other though. We could never quite figure out what it was, but it’s lasted a lifetime.

As children, we would spend hours with each other without talking that much.

We just understood each other. Even if you put us on either side of a big room full of people, Jennifer and I would always find our way back to each other immediately.

We survived high school together. I’m not sure if either of us would’ve made it without the other. We laughed and cried together so many times.

There were crushes and boyfriends that caused heartache and heartbreak. But, throughout it all, we were always there for each other, no matter what – no matter how many times I needed a shoulder to cry on, Jennifer was there.

We went to different colleges after high school and the careers and lives we pursued after our studies were poles apart. We lived far away from each other and I’ll be honest, we sometimes went for long periods without talking, which I regret.

I’ll be honest, we sometimes went for long periods without talking, which I regret.

But every time we spoke or saw each other though, we picked up where we left off, and it felt like we’d never been apart.

It’s that mutual love and respect that makes me know Jennifer was the best friend I could ever have had.

A Eulogy for a Wife

I don’t know where to begin to tell you about the enormous gaping hole that Samantha’s passing has left in my life.

It feels like half of me has vanished in an instant, and I’m not sure I’ll ever feel whole again.

Samantha was an amazing woman. She had such an infectious zest for life that she could always find the humor or a silver lining of any situation, regardless of the gravity. Anything seemed possible with her attitude.

The way she attacked the obstacles she encountered with such strength and determination was inspirational.

Samantha and I met quite by accident. I walked into her office in error – and there she was: the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. She seemed to radiate some kind of magnetic attraction.  

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I knew there and then that I would never be able to stay away from her, and that my life would not be complete without her in it. She didn’t make it easy.

I had to ask her out several times before she agreed. But when I look back on the life we’ve shared, it was more than worth it.

Our children were the center of Samantha’s world. She took her role as a mother seriously and did an amazing job of raising them to be the adults they are today.

I wish I’d had more time with her, I really do. But I will treasure the years I had with her in my heart for the rest of my life.

A Funeral Speech for a Husband

The thing that made me fall in love with Stephen was his sense of humor. He always made me laugh, even when all I wanted to do was cry.

Whenever I’d get angry or upset with him – for whatever reason – I’d always wind up laughing because he could always make me see the funny side of it.

As a husband, Stephen was supportive of everything I did.

Like when I decided that the patio needed to be refurbished. He was right by my side working so hard to help me, even though I’m sure the last thing he felt like doing was revamping the patio.

In fact, I know he would have preferred to spend his weekend resting and relaxing. But he never let me down. Tired or not, he’d help me with all my ‘projects’.

Stephen endeared himself to me even more when we became parents. He was so proud to be a father and a wonderfully hands-on partner.

I couldn’t have asked for a better father for my children. In fact, there were times I had to ask him to be a bit more hands-off so that I could get to my babies!

The lives of our children and their achievements gave Stephen an enormous amount of satisfaction.

He supported them every step of the way. He picked them up when they fell or failed.

He encouraged them to keep going. And he showed them how to be the resilient adults they have become.

My life was better that I could have ever imagined, and fuller that I ever dreamed because of Stephen’s presence by my side.

A Eulogy for a brother

I’m not going to stand up here and tell you that it was all sunshine and roses between David and myself growing up.

There were times I wished he wasn’t my brother. And I’m sure there were times he wished I wasn’t his sister.

We seemed to have a knack for pushing each other’s buttons, sometimes with some amusing consequences, sometimes not.

From the outset, David stood out as an individual. He did not march to the beat of society’s drum. He had his own internal drumbeat, and he remained committed to it.

One of my favorite memories of David is the one-and-only time my mother asked him to water her indoor plants. True to form, David came up with a plan to make the job easier.

He brought the hose and sprinkler indoors and turned it on. I’ll never forget the look on my mother’s face and the mischievous grin on David’s.

As we grew older, I began to see David for what he truly was. He was a caring brother who’d do anything to protect me.

He let me cry on his shoulder when I went through my first break-up. He was the only one who understood my hurt and confusion when our parents divorced.

David was a loyal and kind person who’d never let you down.

He’d have given anyone the shirt off his back. I’m proud to have called this incredibly special man my brother.

A Funeral Speech for a Sister

My sister Janet never met a challenge she didn’t conquer.

Even as a baby, she showed an exceptional amount of determination. She would turn her mind to an obstacle and work on it until she’d overcome it.

Of course, she drove me crazy. Having a little sister who wanted to tag along was, at times, infuriating.

She would go through the things in my room and leave a mess. When she was about ten years old, she got into my makeup drawer and went completely overboard.

When I caught her, she had rainbow-colored eyelids, forehead and cheeks. Her lips and teeth were full of lipstick, and there was mascara everywhere. I was furious at the time. When she saw how angry I was, she began to cry.

Anytime she’d open those beautiful big brown eyes of hers, silently reminding me that she was my flesh and blood, I couldn’t stay angry with her.

She’d open those beautiful big brown eyes and remind me that she was my flesh and blood. And I couldn’t stay angry with her.

Janet was an exemplary student. She had an incredible work ethic. If she didn’t understand something, she’d work at it until she did.

Losing my sister is so heartbreaking. She had so much left to offer the world.

But wherever she is, I know that she’s looking down on me now with those gorgeous brown eyes and that beautiful smile.

A Funeral Speech for a Close Acquaintance (e.g., a teacher, boss, coworker)

I’d like to start by offering John’s family my sincerest condolences.

Your loss is so great. You had a special man in your midst, and I’m can’t imagine the depth of loss you must feel.

John was my high school English teacher, so you might wonder why I refer to him as John and not as Mr. Robinson; it was at his insistence, as soon as I graduated.

When I first called him Mr. Robinson after graduation, he’d turned around and said, “Is my father standing behind me?” When I replied in the negative, he’d said, “Then why are you saying his name?”

John taught me so much more than English. He taught me how to think critically, and not to take things at face value.  

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He showed me the value of questioning that which was placed before me as fact. Thanks to him, I developed analytical skills that I continue to use today.

John’s work ethic influenced me greatly. He would always show us the value of hard work and diligence. I took those lessons to heart.

His passion for teaching English was contagious. I fell in love with the language on a different level thanks to him. He made the written word come alive in class.

He may not have known it, but John fulfilled an important role in my life. He was like a father, an uncle, and a big brother all rolled into one.

He shaped me into the man I am today. There are no words I can use to express my gratitude, which I know would disappoint John. After all, he made sure he taught us a wide vocabulary

How To Express Sympathy: What To Say And What Not to Say

We’ve compiled a list of things to say—and things to avoid saying—when offering condolences.

What To Say To Express Sympathy

The goal of expressing sympathy is to offer your compassion and concern for the bereaved. You can say how much you will miss the person who died or you can share a happy memory. While it might be hard to know what to say to someone who lost a loved one, the most important thing to communicate is that you care about the bereaved person and you're available as a source of support.

"I’m sorry for your loss."

While this phrase has become a cliché, it's a simple and succinct way of communicating your empathy. If you are at a loss for words, telling a person “I’m sorry for your loss” can let the person know that you care.

"My condolences."

This is another safe option. Other variations: "my deepest condolences" or "my condolences to you and your family."

“You're in my thoughts/I’m thinking of you."

Letting the person know you are aware of the emotional difficulty of the situation can help a bereaved person feel less isolated in their experience, and reminding the person that you care enough to be thinking about them can help a bereaved person feel less isolated in the world.

"S/he was a wonderful person."

"i will miss him/her.", "this must be so hard for you.".

Acknowledging the pain and grief that the bereaved is feeling can be very consoling. Many people who experience a loss feel alone and isolated in their feelings, and by acknowledging the emotional difficulty of the situation you can help make the bereaved feel less alone.

“I love you."

If you’re close enough, reminding a grieving person that you love them can be powerful. Grief can leave people feeling alone; by reminding them that you love them and are there for them can be a reminder that they're not alone.

"When you’re ready, I’d like to get together to learn more about [the deceased's name]."

If you didn’t know the person who died, offering to listen to the bereaved can make them feel cared for and take some of the pressure off of immediate interactions. Letting the bereaved know that you’re there for them in the future can be a huge comfort during a stressful and painful time.

Share a memory of the person who died.

It doesn't have to be an epic revelation, you can think of something small and meaningful. Perhaps they taught you something you still use in your daily life, or maybe something funny they did that always makes you smile.

What Not To Say To Someone Who Has Experienced A Loss

Many people are afraid to say the “wrong thing” to someone who has just experienced a loss. Because a bereaved person is typically feeling overwhelmed and highly emotional, the stakes feel very high. You should try to speak from a place of love and compassion, and honestly acknowledge the situation. Three good rules to follow when figuring out what not to say are:

• Don’t deny that the person who died is dead.
• Don’t deny that the bereaved is in emotional pain.
• Don’t deny that this death may change everyone’s lives forever.

"I know how you are feeling."

While this may seem like an empathic statement, it often has the opposite effect. Everyone experiences loss and grief differently, and you should encourage the bereaved to have their unique experience of the loss. A better way to express your empathy might be, “If you want to talk about how you are feeling, know that I am here for you.”

"S/he is in a better place."

This statement has the potential to be offensive. "So being dead is better than being with me and our children?" This is often said to comfort the bereaved, especially when a person has no idea what to say, but it can have the opposite effect.

"How are you doing/holding up?"

For most people who have experienced a death, the answer to this question is “Not well.” While we want to check in with people who are in grief, the casualness of this question often forces someone struggling with grief to put on a false face.

"Now you can start moving on with your life."

After a prolonged or painful illness death can seem like a relief, but you should never make it seem like the loss of a loved one eliminated a burden. A grieving person needs time and space to process the loss and grieve, especially if they spent months or years providing care to the deceased.

"I don’t know what I would do if my [deceased’s relationship to the bereaved] died."

While this statement may be absolutely true for you, it does nothing to comfort the bereaved. It may make the bereaved person feel even more isolated in their grief. Instead, try acknowledging the profoundness of the loss and let the person know that you are there as a source of comfort and support.

"At least the death was quick so there wasn’t pain."

Death is incredibly difficult no matter the form it takes. While you may want to help the person look on the “upside,” you're making an assumption that can be taken the wrong way by a person consumed by grief.

"At least you had a chance to say goodbye."

It's often viewed as a positive thing if the bereaved was with their loved one when they passed, but it can also be a small consolation in the grand scheme of thing. Here's a good rule to keep in mind when expressing sympathy: Never start a sentence with "at least."

"Don’t worry, you’ll feel better soon."

While you may want to help the bereaved look toward the future, it’s important to give a grieving person the time and space to experience their feelings. Grief doesn't have a timeline so don’t pressure them to “get over it.”

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40 Thoughtful Condolence Messages to Send to Family or Friends

Let these notes be a source of comfort for those mourning.

For help finding the right words, we’ve rounded up some thoughtful messages to write inside a sympathy card, note or letter for someone dealing with the death of a loved one . These messages will show the bereaved how much you care while remaining respectful and supportive.

Whether it’s a friend coping with the sudden loss of a spouse or a colleague whose mom recently passed, sharing your heartfelt sympathy lets them know that they’re not alone and that you’re thinking of them.

“Handwritten notes are one of the most personal forms of communication,” says Tanea Smith, owner of She’s Got Papers , an online stationery boutique. “The recipient may forget the day you called or visited but your card is a keepsake. It will be kept and reread. In the days after a funeral the family is bombarded with guests and comfort. In the weeks, months and years following the tangible items will remain.”

While these messages are intended to spark ideas and serve as inspiration, you should always be authentic and include a personal memory or anecdote, if possible.

“Reminders of that funny moment at the family gathering, the first time you met the deceased, milestones you may have shared, or something that was unique to the deceased are all things you want to share,” says Smith. Just be sure to avoid writing things that could be upsetting or misinterpreted.

“Never write, ‘They're in a better place and there's no more pain,’” says Smith. “While you may feel this way, any phrase that brings attention to the death can produce more grief and sadness. You want your words to do the opposite, not highlighting the death but celebrating the life.”

Shirley Enebrad, an author and certified grief recovery specialist agrees. “Never make it about you and your experience with loss,” she says. “Focus on the griever and his or her feelings. Absolutely never say, "I know how you feel.” Additionally, it’s always best not to ask how you can help. “Do not ask them to contact you if they need anything,” Enebrad says. “Tell them you will follow up in a few weeks to offer your services to go shopping, clean their windows, sweep their garage, cook them a meal or something tangible.”

Also, remember to send your sympathy card within the first couple of weeks. However, if you miss that opportunity, it’s never too late. In fact, it might have a positive impact on the grieving recipient who may feel like everyone has moved on while they’re still grappling with their loss.

“We're all going to leave our mark on the hearts of those who knew us when we exit this world,” says Smith. “Sending a sympathy card is an opportunity to celebrate someone's life while lifting the spirits of their loved one at the same time.”

Ideas for Writing Condolence Messages to a Friend

• “I know there are no words that can ease your pain. Just know that I’ll always be here for you no matter what.”
• “Thinking of you during this difficult time.”
• “Sending healing prayers and comfort during this tough time.”
• “You’re not alone. I’m here to be a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen to anything that you may want to share.”
• “My heart goes out to you for the loss of your dear friend. I know how much she meant to you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.”
• “I cannot imagine the pain and heartache you’re feeling. I am praying for your peace and comfort.”
• “Losing someone so close is so hard. I will be here to support you at any time and any hour. Sending you so much love.
• “I know that grief comes in waves. That’s why I intend to be with you throughout this difficult journey.”
• “Be kind and gentle with yourself. Take your time and know that you have my full support.”
• “I recall how much time you two spent together. You were virtually inseparable. May all your wonderful memories comfort you during this heartbreaking time.”

Ideas for Writing Condolence Messages to a Colleague

• “Thinking of you and your family as you celebrate the life of your beloved.”
• “May your happy memories give you peace and comfort during this challenging time.”
• “I am sharing in your sadness as you remember your loved one.”
• “Praying for you during this difficult time. If you ever want to talk, I’m here.”
• “Deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss.”
• “Words cannot express how saddened we are to learn of your loss. Please take your time. We are all here for you.”
• “My heartfelt sympathy to you and yours at this sad time.”
• “Please accept my sincere condolences.”
• “My heart breaks for you. I’m here to listen to any stories you may want to share about your loved one.”

Ideas for Writing Condolence Messages to Someone Who Lost a Mom or Dad

• “I didn’t have the pleasure of knowing your mom, but I’m sure she was a special person because she raised an amazing human being: you@ Wishing you peace and comfort during this unimaginable time.”
• “Your dad’s amazing personality lives on through you. Sending you love during this difficult time.”
• “There is no one in this world like your mother. She was a special person, and she will always be with you.”
• “Your mother will forever remain in our hearts and memories.”
• “Your father was such an inspiration in my life —I’ll never forget the valuable lessons he taught me.”
• “Nothing I can say will take away the pain you’re experiencing. Just want you to know that I care about you, and I share in your sadness.”
• “May you look back on the precious memories and find peace in knowing that your father raised an amazing person.”
• “A mother’s love is eternal. Hold on to that infinite love and let it be your guiding light.”
• “I will always cherish the wonderful memories I have with your dad. He will be forever missed.”
• “From what I’ve heard, your mother was a phenomenal woman. What good memories you must have. Lean on them to remind you of the joy she brought into your life”
• “I’m a firm believer that when we lose someone close to us, like a father, they continue to live on through us and give us unbelievable strength. They’re so connected to us that they become a part of us.”

Ideas for Writing Condolence Messages to Someone Who Lost a Husband or Wife

• “Love never dies. Your wife’s love for you is everlasting.”
• “Your husband was such a wonderful man. He was also an outstanding partner who will live in our hearts and memories forever.”
• “No words can express how sorry I am for the loss of your wife. I didn’t know her personally, but I know how much you loved her, and I am here for you.”
• “I know your husband must’ve been an amazing man because you always beamed with pride whenever you spoke of him. Sending you an abundance of love.”
• “It was such a privilege and honor to work with your wife. She was an incredibly smart and thoughtful woman. May her memory live on forever.”
• “I’ll always admire the love shared between you and your husband. You shared a one-of-kind bond that can never be broken.”
• “I’m deeply sorry for the loss of your beloved partner. You complemented each other like no other couple I know. May your precious memories bring you comfort.”
• “I was incredibly saddened to hear about the passing of your dear wife. She was always so thoughtful and kind. She will truly be missed.”
• “Your partner was such a special person. They will live in my heart forever.”
• “Someone who shared so much life with you will always be a part of you. Bonds like yours are forever.”

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8 Military Funeral Speech Examples to Pay Tribute

Paying tribute to the brave men and women who served in the armed forces through a military funeral speech is a sacred responsibility. In this collection of military funeral speech examples, we present heartfelt and respectful eulogies that celebrate the valor, sacrifice, and unwavering commitment of our fallen heroes.

Last updated on February 20th, 2024 at 09:39 pm

A military funeral speech, also known as a eulogy or tribute , is a solemn and heartfelt address given during a military funeral to honor and pay tribute to the life, service, and sacrifice of a deceased serviceman or woman.

A military funeral is a solemn occasion that provides an opportunity to pay tribute to the brave men and women who served their country with honor and selflessness.

Delivering a heartfelt and respectful speech during such a ceremony is a significant responsibility, as it allows us to remember and honor the sacrifices made by our fallen heroes.

Tips for Writing a Eulogy for a Veteran

Writing a eulogy for a veteran is a deeply honorable task, as it allows you to pay tribute to someone who has served their country with dedication and sacrifice. Here are some tips to help you craft a meaningful and respectful eulogy for a veteran:

• Research and Gather Information: Take the time to research the veteran’s life, military service, and personal experiences. Speak with family members, friends, and fellow veterans to gather anecdotes, stories, and insights that will help you create a comprehensive picture of their life and character.
• Highlight Their Military Service: Emphasize the veteran’s military service and the contributions they made during their time in the armed forces. Mention any notable achievements, commendations, or acts of bravery they exhibited during their service.
• Be Respectful and Sensitive: A eulogy for a veteran should be delivered with the utmost respect and sensitivity. Avoid discussing any controversial topics or aspects of their life that might not be appropriate for the occasion.
• Share Personal Stories: Include personal stories and memories that showcase the veteran’s personality, values, and impact on others. Highlight their positive traits and the positive ways they affected the lives of those around them.
• Acknowledge Sacrifices: Recognize and acknowledge the sacrifices the veteran made during their service, including time spent away from family, physical and emotional hardships endured, and the toll of war.
• Express Gratitude: Express gratitude for the veteran’s service and the sacrifices they made in defending their country. Thank them for their dedication, bravery, and the legacy they leave behind.
• Consider Military Traditions: If the veteran had specific military affiliations or traditions, incorporate them respectfully into the eulogy. Mention any military honors or ceremonies that will take place during the funeral.
• Keep It Concise: While it’s essential to be heartfelt and meaningful, keep the eulogy concise and focused. Aim for a length of 5-10 minutes, as longer speeches may become overwhelming for grieving attendees.
• Practice and Emote: Rehearse the eulogy to ensure a smooth delivery. Speak from the heart, and don’t be afraid to show emotion as it demonstrates your genuine connection to the veteran.
• Seek Feedback: Before delivering the eulogy, consider sharing it with close family members or friends to get their input and ensure its accuracy and appropriateness.

Remember, writing a eulogy for a veteran is an opportunity to honor their memory and express gratitude for their service. Approach the task with sincerity, respect, and compassion, and your eulogy will serve as a fitting tribute to their life and legacy.

Military Funeral Speech Examples

Below, I’ve written examples of 4 different military eulogy styles: The Eulogy of Remembrance, The Grateful Nation, A Tribute to a Fearless Warrior, and The Promise of Remembrance.

For each style, I’ve included a shorter condensed version and a longer extended version to give you a bit of choice depending on whether you’re supposed to simply give a few short words or a full-blown speech.

The Eulogy of Remembrance (Condensed)

“Ladies and gentlemen, today we gather with heavy hearts to honor and bid farewell to a true hero. Our departed [Rank] [Name] answered the call of duty with unwavering dedication and commitment. As we remember [Name]’s life and service, let us not mourn in sorrow, but celebrate the legacy [he/she] leaves behind.

[Name]’s love for our nation was undeniable, as [he/she] faced adversity with bravery and grace. [He/She] embodied the principles of duty, honor, and courage that define the finest soldiers among us. [He/She] stood tall and resolute in the face of danger, protecting our freedoms and the values we hold dear.

Today, as we say our goodbyes, let us find solace in the knowledge that [Name]’s sacrifice was not in vain. [His/Her] memory will forever be etched in our hearts, inspiring future generations to follow in [his/her] footsteps. Let us honor [Name]’s memory by living our lives with the same unwavering dedication to our country and fellow citizens.”

The Eulogy of Remembrance (Extended)

Ladies and gentlemen,

Today, we gather here with heavy hearts to pay tribute to a remarkable soul, [Rank] [Name], who dedicated [his/her] life to the service of our great nation. It is an honor and a privilege to stand before you and share some words that attempt to encapsulate the immense impact [Name] has had on all of us and the profound legacy [he/she] leaves behind.

[Name] was not only a soldier, but a true hero who embodied the very essence of courage, honor, and sacrifice. From [his/her] earliest days, [Name] demonstrated a sense of duty and a calling to protect and defend. When the time came, [he/she] answered the nation’s call, standing tall among the finest defenders of freedom.

[His/Her] journey as a soldier was one filled with both triumphs and trials. [Name] faced adversity with unyielding resilience, overcoming challenges with grace and determination. [He/She] was not only a leader in the ranks but also a friend and mentor to countless comrades who had the privilege of serving alongside [him/her].

The love [Name] had for our country was evident in every action [he/she] took. [His/Her] unwavering commitment to the principles that our nation stands for—liberty, justice, and democracy—was unwavering. [Name]’s dedication to the cause was the driving force that pushed [him/her] to be the best version of [himself/herself], both in uniform and in life beyond the battlefield.

[His/Her] bravery was unmatched, as [he/she] faced danger head-on without flinching. Whether it was on foreign soil, defending our freedoms in distant lands, or safeguarding our homeland from threats, [Name] was always at the forefront, leading by example. [His/Her] actions spoke volumes, inspiring those around [him/her] to rise to the occasion and follow [his/her] lead.

Yet, for all the battles [Name] fought, [his/her] heart remained gentle and compassionate. [He/She] understood the true cost of war—the toll it takes on the lives of countless families and the sacrifices made by our soldiers and their loved ones. Despite witnessing the harsh realities of conflict, [Name] maintained a sense of humanity that endeared [him/her] to all who knew [him/her].

[His/Her] valor, however, cannot be measured merely by medals or accolades, for the true measure of [Name]’s greatness lies in the lives [he/she] touched. [His/Her] selflessness extended beyond the battlefield, as [he/she] generously gave [his/her] time and support to the community, always ready to lend a helping hand to those in need.

Today, as we bid farewell to [Name], let us not mourn in sorrow but celebrate the legacy [he/she] leaves behind. Let us find solace in knowing that [his/her] sacrifice was not in vain, and [his/her] memory will live on in the hearts of all who had the privilege of knowing [him/her]. [Name]’s spirit will continue to inspire us to be better individuals, to strive for a more just and compassionate world, and to cherish the freedoms we enjoy.

In closing, let us remember [Name]’s unwavering commitment to our nation, the valor [he/she] displayed in the face of adversity, and the love [he/she] had for [his/her] fellow citizens. May [his/her] memory be forever etched in our hearts, guiding us as we continue to protect and uphold the values that [Name] so dearly cherished.

Rest in peace, dear [Rank] [Name]. You have served your nation with distinction and have earned a place of honor among the bravest souls to have walked this earth. Your memory will remain an eternal flame, lighting the path for future generations to follow. Farewell, our hero, farewell.

The Grateful Nation (Condensed)

“As we stand here today, we come together as a grateful nation to honor one of our finest defenders. [Rank] [Name] selflessly chose a path of service, dedicating [his/her] life to protect the freedoms we hold dear. [He/She] made the ultimate sacrifice for our nation, a testament to [his/her] extraordinary courage and love for country.

In times of conflict, [Name] exemplified the true meaning of valor, facing danger head-on without hesitation. [He/She] proved [himself/herself] time and again as an exceptional soldier, a leader, and a friend to many. [Name]’s unwavering commitment to duty and loyalty to [his/her] comrades serve as an enduring example of the virtues that define our armed forces.

Today, we salute [Name] and the countless others who have given their lives to protect the liberties we cherish. Their memory lives on in the very fabric of our nation, and their legacy inspires us to strive for a better, safer world. Let us remember their sacrifice not with sorrow alone but with gratitude for the profound impact they have left on our lives and our nation’s history.”

The Grateful Nation (Extended)

Today, we gather as a grateful nation to pay our solemn respects to a true patriot and defender of freedom, [Rank] [Name]. We stand here not only to mourn the loss of a remarkable soul but to celebrate the profound impact [he/she] had on our lives and the legacy [he/she] leaves behind.

[Name] was more than a soldier; [he/she] was a shining example of the ideals and principles that define the very essence of our nation. [His/Her] unwavering commitment to duty and dedication to protecting our homeland exemplified the highest standard of service and sacrifice.

Throughout [his/her] life, [Name] displayed a deep love for our country, a love that fueled [his/her] unwavering resolve to protect the freedoms we hold dear. [He/She] understood the true cost of liberty—the bloodshed and sweat that have been shed by countless men and women throughout history to preserve the values we cherish today.

As we gather here, surrounded by the somber symbols of respect and gratitude, we must remember that our beloved [Name] was more than just a soldier in uniform. [He/She] was a son/daughter, a sibling, a friend, a comrade, and a beacon of hope for all who had the privilege of knowing [him/her]. [His/Her] life was filled with laughter, joy, and compassion, reminding us that even in times of conflict, we must never forget the humanity that binds us all together.

[Name]’s journey as a defender of freedom was one marked by sacrifice and selflessness. [He/She] willingly placed [himself/herself] in harm’s way to protect us, the citizens [he/she] cherished and served with utmost dedication. [His/Her] commitment to safeguarding our nation transcended personal aspirations, as [he/she] understood that true greatness lies in giving of oneself for the betterment of others.

In times of conflict, [Name] stood tall among the bravest, bravely facing adversaries and dangers that threatened our way of life. [His/Her] courage and resilience were unwavering, and [he/she] proved to be a source of inspiration for [his/her] comrades and all those who knew [him/her].

As we reflect on [Name]’s service and sacrifice, we are reminded of the countless heroes who have stood before us, selflessly offering their lives to protect the liberties we often take for granted. It is because of them that we stand here today, basking in the warmth of freedom, cherishing the rights and opportunities that define our nation.

Today, we come together as a grateful nation, offering our heartfelt thanks to [Rank] [Name] and the countless others who have made the ultimate sacrifice. We honor their memory not with hollow words but with the commitment to uphold the values they fought for. Let us strive to be better citizens, better human beings, and better caretakers of the precious gift of freedom that [Name] and many others have entrusted to our care.

As we say our final farewell to [Name], we find solace in the knowledge that [his/her] legacy will endure through the ages, reminding us that the true essence of a grateful nation lies not in mourning their loss but in cherishing their memory and carrying their spirit in our hearts.

Rest in peace, dear [Rank] [Name]. Your watch has ended, and we are forever indebted to you for the freedom you preserved. Your memory will live on, inspiring us to strive for a brighter, more just world—one that truly reflects the values for which you so valiantly fought.

May your soul find eternal peace as we bid you farewell with gratitude, respect, and love. Thank you, our hero, thank you.

A Tribute to a Fearless Warrior (Condensed)

Today, we gather as a community of mourners to pay our respects and bid farewell to a true hero, [Rank] [Name]. [His/Her] unwavering courage and sacrifice on the battlefield were unmatched, inspiring awe in all who knew [him/her]. [Name] not only exemplified the essence of a fearless warrior but also radiated compassion and camaraderie among [his/her] comrades. [His/Her] memory will forever live on in our hearts, as we promise to honor [his/her] legacy by upholding the values [he/she] fought to protect.

[Name]’s journey as a soldier was marked by extraordinary valor, resilience, and an unwavering commitment to duty. From the frontlines to the darkest corners of conflict, [he/she] stood tall, an unyielding bastion against the tides of darkness. [His/Her] love for [his/her] unit was evident, as [he/she] stood by [his/her] comrades with unwavering support and care.

As we say our final goodbyes, let us find solace in the knowledge that [Name]’s sacrifice was not in vain. [His/Her] memory will live on, not only in the hearts of [his/her] family and friends but also in the hearts of a grateful nation. To our fallen hero, we offer our profound gratitude—for the liberties we hold dear, for the peace we cherish, and for the safety of our homeland. Your bravery and sacrifice have left an indelible mark on our lives. Farewell, and thank you for your service and sacrifice.

A Tribute to a Fearless Warrior (Extended)

Today, we stand here with heavy hearts, united in grief and gratitude, to bid farewell to a remarkable soul, [Rank] [Name]. We gather not only as mourners but as witnesses to a life of unparalleled courage, sacrifice, and unwavering dedication to duty.

[Name] was a true warrior, a defender of freedom who faced adversity head-on without flinching. [His/Her] journey as a soldier was one filled with valor and resilience, a testament to the indomitable spirit that resided within [him/her].

In the midst of chaos and turmoil, [Name] stood firm, an unyielding bastion against the tides of darkness. [He/She] faced battles with a calm determination, never losing sight of the mission or the comrades who fought by [his/her] side. In the crucible of conflict, [Name] demonstrated the epitome of bravery, inspiring awe and admiration in all who had the privilege of witnessing [his/her] valor.

But [Name] was more than a fearless warrior. [He/She] was a beacon of hope, a source of strength for [his/her] unit, and a friend to many. [His/Her] genuine care for the well-being of [his/her] fellow soldiers was evident in the camaraderie they shared—a bond forged through shared experiences and a common purpose.

In times of darkness, [Name] brought a glimmer of light, a touch of humanity amidst the chaos of battle. [His/Her] unwavering determination and sense of humor lifted the spirits of those around [him/her], providing a respite from the hardships of war. [His/Her] acts of kindness and selflessness were an inspiration to all and reflected the true essence of a soldier—someone who not only defends but also uplifts.

As we mourn the loss of our dear [Rank] [Name], let us remember that [his/her] legacy extends far beyond the battlefield. [He/She] was a son/daughter, a sibling, a partner, and a cherished member of the community. [His/Her] love and dedication extended to [his/her] family, who stood by [him/her] with unwavering support and pride throughout [his/her] journey of service.

As we say our final goodbyes, let us find solace in knowing that [Name]’s sacrifice was not in vain. [His/Her] memory will live on in the hearts of all who knew [him/her], a guiding light in times of darkness, a reminder of the resilience of the human spirit.

To our fallen hero, we offer our profound gratitude for the liberties we hold dear, for the peace we cherish, and for the safety of our homeland. Your bravery and sacrifice will never be forgotten.

Today, we bid farewell to [Rank] [Name], but we promise to carry [him/her] in our hearts, forever. We vow to honor [his/her] memory by standing together as a united nation, upholding the ideals [Name] held dear and working towards a world in which peace and compassion prevail.

Rest in peace, dear [Rank] [Name]. Your watch may have ended, but your legacy will endure in the annals of history—a testament to the bravery and unwavering devotion that define a true warrior.

Farewell, our fearless warrior, farewell.

The Promise of Remembrance (Condensed)

“Today, we gather to pay our respects to a remarkable individual who embodied the values of a true patriot. [Rank] [Name] was more than just a soldier; [he/she] was a guardian of freedom, a beacon of hope, and a symbol of strength for all of us.

[Name]’s unwavering sense of duty and commitment to protecting our homeland serve as a powerful reminder of the sacrifices made by countless servicemen and women. [His/Her] legacy teaches us that freedom comes at a price, a price paid with unwavering devotion to our nation and its people.

As we say our final goodbyes, let us pledge to remember [Name]’s sacrifice and the sacrifices of all those who have fallen before [him/her]. Let us cherish their memories, ensuring that their names and deeds are etched into the annals of history for generations to come. Our promise to remember, honor, and uphold their ideals will keep their spirit alive in our hearts forever.”

The Promise of Remembrance (Extended)

Today, we gather here with heavy hearts to honor the memory of a true patriot, [Rank] [Name]. As we mourn the loss of a brave soldier and a cherished friend, we also celebrate a life well-lived—one filled with courage, sacrifice, and an unwavering commitment to the principles that define our nation.

[Name] was not just a soldier; [he/she] was a guardian of freedom, a symbol of strength, and a source of inspiration for all who had the privilege of crossing [his/her] path. [His/Her] journey as a defender of our homeland was marked by a profound sense of duty and an unyielding promise to protect the liberties we hold dear.

From [his/her] earliest days, [Name] displayed a remarkable sense of purpose—a calling to serve, protect, and make a difference in the lives of others. [He/She] understood that freedom comes with a price, and [he/she] was willing to pay that price, pledging [his/her] life to safeguard the values and rights we cherish.

[His/Her] commitment to the cause of liberty was unwavering, even in the face of adversity and uncertainty. [Name] stood resolute on the frontlines, facing danger with courage, and leading by example. [His/Her] valor was not merely confined to the battlefield; it was a part of [his/her] very being, a guiding light that illuminated the path for others to follow.

In times of conflict, [Name] displayed extraordinary bravery, never hesitating to put others before [himself/herself]. [His/Her] actions embodied the essence of selflessness, as [he/she] often made sacrifices for the greater good, knowing that the well-being of our nation and its people was paramount.

Today, as we bid farewell to [Name], we must recognize that our promise of remembrance is not one to be taken lightly. It is a sacred vow—an obligation to preserve [his/her] memory, ensuring that [his/her] legacy lives on in the hearts of all who knew [him/her].

We promise to remember [Name] not just as a soldier, but as a person—filled with dreams, hopes, and aspirations. We will cherish [his/her] laughter, kindness, and the love [he/she] shared with us all.

We promise to honor [Name]’s sacrifice by valuing the freedoms [he/she] fought to protect. We will never take for granted the rights and opportunities that have been secured for us by [him/her] and the countless other brave souls who have given their lives in service to our nation.

We promise to stand united as a nation, bound together by the shared ideals that [Name] upheld. We will continue to build bridges of understanding and compassion, knowing that it is our collective strength that ensures the endurance of our nation’s legacy.

As we bid farewell to our dear [Rank] [Name], we do not say goodbye with sorrow alone. Instead, we embrace [him/her] with gratitude and love, thanking [him/her] for [his/her] indelible impact on our lives and our nation.

Rest in peace, dear [Rank] [Name]. You have served your nation with distinction and have earned a place of honor among the bravest souls to have walked this earth. Your memory will remain an eternal flame, lighting the path for future generations to follow.

We promise to remember, honor, and uphold your ideals as we continue the journey you began—a journey towards a better, more compassionate world.

Farewell, our hero, farewell.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can anyone deliver a military funeral speech.

Yes, typically, anyone close to the deceased or with a connection to the military can deliver a military funeral speech. This may include family members, friends, fellow service members, or military chaplains.

Are there specific guidelines for crafting a military funeral speech?

While there are no strict rules, a military funeral speech should be respectful, dignified, and mindful of the deceased’s military service and personal life . Including anecdotes, stories, and memories can add a personal touch to the tribute.

How long should a military funeral speech be?

Military funeral speeches are generally kept concise, typically lasting between 3 to 5 minutes . It is essential to convey heartfelt sentiments while keeping the overall speech respectful and focused.

Is it appropriate to use humor in a military funeral speech?

While humor can be a way to celebrate the life and personality of the deceased, it should be used with utmost sensitivity and appropriateness . Be mindful of the solemnity of the occasion and the feelings of the grieving audience.

Can I share the military funeral speech with others after the service?

Absolutely. If appropriate, you can share the speech with others who may not have been able to attend the service, allowing them to join in honoring and remembering the departed individual’s life and service.

Final Thoughts

A military funeral is a time of somber reflection and heartfelt appreciation for the men and women who bravely served their country. The speeches delivered during these solemn ceremonies provide an opportunity to celebrate the lives and sacrifices of our fallen heroes. Each example speech above aims to capture the essence of gratitude, patriotism, and the indomitable spirit of those who served in the armed forces. Through these words, we hope to perpetuate their legacy, reminding us all of the importance of service, honor, and sacrifice in preserving the freedom we hold dear.

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Biden’s stutter surges into the presidential campaign

Trump mocks and exaggerates the speech impediment. biden embraces it as reflecting compassion..

President Biden recently sent out a video of a meeting with a 9-year-old with a stutter, telling the young boy, “Don’t let anybody tell you that you can’t do anything.”

He wrote about having “struggled with a stutter all my life,” an unusual nod to the ongoing nature of his battle. And in interviews, he has spoken at length about the childhood trauma and embarrassment of struggling to speak.

Donald Trump has mocked Biden in recent weeks by falsely claiming that the president is stuttering during his speeches, and he has parodied the purported stammer on occasion, but Biden has been relying on a longtime centerpiece of his personal and political biography, embracing it to sell himself as the candidate of compassion for the 2024 presidential rematch.

The election may ultimately be decided by sweeping issues like the economy, immigration, abortion and democracy. But the early phase has also been marked by a discussion, in ways both crass and subtle, of a far more personal topic — Biden’s stutter. That back-and-forth reflects the candidates’ sharply differing views of disability and struggle, and their role in a divided political culture that can reward ridicule more than acceptance.

“We don’t even talk about what is ‘presidential’ anymore,” said Ted Kaufman, a longtime confidant and friend of Biden’s. “But if you look at Joe Biden’s reaction and you look at Trump’s reaction, one is presidential and one is not.”

He insisted that Trump’s attacks don’t get under Biden’s skin — “He’s been through worse things than that in his life” — and said the stutter highlights a core part of the president’s past and “an example of how he overcame things.”

Trump’s aides contend that he ridicules Biden’s competence, not his stutter. “President Trump has never mocked Joe Biden’s speech impediment,” said adviser Jason Miller. “He’s simply called out the fact Biden is a cognitively impaired, low-IQ individual.”

There is no evidence that Biden is cognitively impaired, and Miller declined to say how he squares his assertion with Trump, for example, telling a crowd after one Biden speech earlier this year: “Did you see him? He was stuttering through the whole thing.”

It was after the State of the Union on March 7, when Biden attacked Trump in fiery terms , that Trump most recently introduced Biden’s stutter into the campaign. At a rally in Georgia, Trump asked sarcastically if Biden would “bring the country t-t-t-together.” Biden never used that phrase in his speech, and in the seven instances he said the word “together,” he did not stutter.

Biden reacted by embracing the disability he battled to overcome as a child, one that he still works to subdue. In Wisconsin last week, Biden met with Harry Abramson, a 9-year-old boy who had written to Biden asking how he had defeated his stutter and adding that — if he could overcome his own — perhaps he, too, could one day become president.

“You can do whatever you want to do,” Biden told Harry, according to a video released by the campaign.

Afterward, Biden sent out a clip of the exchange from his personal X account, writing: “Harry, I’ve struggled with a stutter all of my life. Thank you for telling me about yours, and don’t let anyone tell you it will stop you from achieving your dreams.”

Biden’s use of the phrase “all of my life” reflects a new way of talking about his battle, said John Hendrickson, author of “Joe Biden’s Stutter, and Mine,” an in-depth article in the Atlantic. “This is a remarkable shift in language from Biden — by far the closest he’s ever come to saying ‘I still stutter,’” he tweeted.

Biden and his aides talk about the stutter in complex and even contradictory ways. Biden has often portrayed it as something he fully conquered as a child, a story of resilience and triumph. At other times, aides have highlighted the stammer to explain Biden’s verbal stumbles, framing them as a function of a disability rather than age.

In a December interview with Conan O’Brien, the comedian and podcast host observed that Biden’s struggle with stuttering must have helped “fuel” and “forge” him as a person. Biden responded, “Well, when I was a kid …,” prompting O’Brien to quickly add, “You’ve got this problem licked, by the way.”

Biden cast the childhood experience as central to his sympathy for those less fortunate.

“We were never allowed to make fun of anyone, no matter how mean they were to us, if they had something they couldn’t overcome. Swear to God,” Biden told O’Brien. “If you did, you’d get your rear end kicked when you went home. Not a joke. And so, it taught me that there’s a lot of people dealing with dilemmas that take away their pride, their dignity.”

Although Biden rarely focuses on his stutter as a current challenge, he often brings it up as a story of overcoming adversity.

He has spoken about it at fundraisers and campaign rallies. He brought it up when presenting the Presidential Medal of Freedom and when honoring the national teachers of the year. He mentioned it at an event in Virginia on health-care costs, at a eulogy in Delaware, at a commencement address at South Carolina State University. He cited it during a banquet in Dublin, a talk to U.S. military personnel in the United Kingdom, an event for the Toys for Tots drive.

“Probably the best thing that’s ever happened to me was one of the worst things,” Biden said on a podcast hosted by Anderson Cooper that explores grief. “When I was a kid, I stuttered badly — t-t-t-talk-talk like-like that — … and I used to hate the fact I stuttered.”

When he had a paper route, Biden has said, he would work out conversations in his head before he got to someone’s door to avoid tripping over his words. He would read poetry — the same Irish poets he would later quote as president — to sound out the words.

He recalled as a high school freshman being embarrassingly exempted from a public speaking assignment. “But I realized it was a great lesson I learned, because everybody has something they can’t fully control — everybody,” Biden told Cooper. “And so it turned out to be a great gift for me that I stuttered.”

To this day, he says that one of his favorite movies is “The King’s Speech,” which depicts the ascent to the throne of King George VI of Britain, who must overcome a speech impediment and address the country during World War II.

For Trump, however, the stutter has been one more way to go after Biden. The presumptive Republican nominee regularly embraces mockery and derision, whether the target is undocumented immigrants, GOP rivals or liberal Democrats.

Trump most often makes fun of Biden for purportedly struggling to find his way offstage after a speech, depicting the president as confused and aimless. But the stutter has also become a target.

Following a Biden speech in Pennsylvania in January, Trump spoke to a crowd in Sioux Center, Iowa. “Did you see him? He was stuttering through the whole thing,” Trump said to a chuckling crowd. “He’s saying I’m a threat to democracy.”

“'He’s a threat to d-d-democracy,’” he continued, pretending himself to stutter. “Couldn’t read the word.”

The remark was untrue. Biden said the word “democracy” 29 times in his speech, never stumbling over it.

Miller, the Trump adviser, downplayed the distinction between mocking Biden’s stutter and attacking his general competence.

“Joe Biden can’t put two sentences together,” Miller said. “It’s not President Trump’s responsibility to diagnose what’s wrong with Biden. He’s simply observing what every other American sees, that Joe Biden is a shell of his former self and unable to lead our country. This weakness has emboldened our adversaries and led to death and destruction at home and abroad.”

Experts say that someone who has conquered a stutter in his youth can see it reemerge as he ages. Biden himself can shift his emphasis, sometimes framing the stutter as a distant memory and other times as an ongoing battle.

For the most part, he places it far in his past. “I used to stutter when I was a little boy, until I was in high school,” Biden said in December 2022. On another occasion that same year, he said he largely vanquished his stutter when he took a speech and debate class in college, even if it still appears from time to time.

But occasionally, as during a CNN town hall in February 2020 , Biden talks of a never-ending struggle. “It’s a debilitating situation,” Biden said at that event. “And I still occasionally, when I find myself really tired, ca-ca-catch myself saying something like that.”

David Frank, a professor of rhetoric at the University of Oregon who has studied Biden’s speeches, said the president clearly uses techniques to work around his stutter, like staying away from certain words or phrases. “There are words that he avoids or substitutes for, and he avoids syllables that he knows will stumble over,” Frank said.

Frank said Biden should acknowledge his stutter more fully, saying it would help him connect to audiences. “He’s like a lot of us confronting our own demons,” Frank said. “If he admits he hasn’t conquered it, he is perceived to be weak. If he says he’s totally overcome it, he’s not being true to himself.”

Biden allies have often pointed to his willingness to speak openly about his struggle, even if it’s usually in the past tense, as a way to uplift the estimated 3 million Americans who stutter.

At an event in 2022, for example, he noticed someone in the crowd holding a sign that read, “Thank you for having a stutter.” In 2020, he encountered 13-year-old Brayden Harrington at a campaign stop, giving him advice for handling his speech impediment and later inviting him to speak at the Democratic National Convention . And last week, he met Harry Abramson, the 9-year-old in Wisconsin.

“If you think about it, the only handicap everybody thinks they can still laugh at is stuttering,” Biden said at a fundraiser in October.

As for Trump, Biden is not the first person whose disability he has made fun of. In 2015, as a presidential candidate , he derisively imitated New York Times reporter Serge Kovaleski, who has a congenital condition affecting joints known as arthrogryposis. Trump has denied knowing about Kovaleski’s condition.

As president, Trump resisted appearing alongside wounded veterans, as reported by Peter Baker and Susan Glasser in their book “The Divider,” and later confirmed by former White House chief of staff John F. Kelly. “I don’t want them,” Trump said. “It doesn’t look good for me.”

Trump has disputed Kelly’s account.

In a 2015 television interview, Trump responded to criticism from columnist Charles Krauthammer, who used a wheelchair, by calling him “a guy that can’t buy a pair of pants.”

“Trump thinks mocking people and taking away their rights makes him look strong,” said Biden campaign spokesman TJ Ducklo. “But it just reveals how weak, insecure and vulnerable he is having to face voters who want real leadership.”

Some of those close to Biden say it is significant that he not only overcame his stutter, but also entered a profession that demands endless public speaking.

“It’s like, how does a guy go from being a stutterer to a guy who makes a career out of speaking?” he added. “Who in history has given more speeches than Joe Biden?”

The Supreme Court hints it may give away our free-speech rights in social-media-censorship case

O utside the Supreme Court Monday, a crowd of several hundred, some clad in shirts reading “Speak your mind, stand your ground” and others hoisting signs with messages like “Fauci lied,” rallied to reclaim the First Amendment from the federal speech police.

Inside the court, the feds rallied to retain the power to silence those speech advocates — and tens of millions more who might dare dissent from government orthodoxy — by cajoling, coercing and colluding with social-media platforms to censor them.

Disturbingly, the Supreme Court might have bought the government’s argument.

That would leave the censorship-industrial complex intact, guaranteeing not only rampant domestic interference in our elections but the death knell of our free-speech rights in the digital public square.

The court heard oral arguments Monday in the landmark Murthy v. Missouri case (formerly Missouri v. Biden).

Plaintiffs — including the states of Missouri and Louisiana, eminent doctors, a conservative website and health activist — demonstrated that by pressuring and partnering with Big Tech platforms to suppress disfavored speech on matters ranging from The Post’s Hunter Biden laptop story to election processes and outcomes to COVID-vaccine efficacy, federal authorities engaged in what a Louisiana district judge called “arguably” the “most massive attack against free speech” in US history.

The censorship dragnet captured millions of posts across a slew of platforms under often arbitrary and capricious, government-driven “content moderation” policies.

By constantly hectoring and holding the threat of adverse action over the heads of the platforms to compel them to quash speech the government disfavored — or else — the feds effectively made the platforms its deputized speech police, as both the district court and the Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals agreed.

Since government cannot “induce, encourage or promote private persons to accomplish what it is constitutionally forbidden to accomplish,” per precedent set in 1973’s Norwood v. Harrison, those lower courts found it likely the feds violated the First Amendment.

The district court in an Independence Day ruling disarmed the speech police while the case plays out via a preliminary injunction prohibiting the feds from coordinating with social-media platforms to censor.

When the feds appealed, the Fifth Circuit modified but kept the freeze in place.

So the defendants, including the Biden White House, FBI and surgeon general’s office, took their case to the Supreme Court.

The Supremes took up the technical question of standing and two primary substantive questions: whether the feds violated the First Amendment by proxy and whether the injunction’s “terms and breadth” were appropriate.

The feds, represented by Deputy Solicitor General Brian Fletcher, and the plaintiffs, repped by Louisiana Solicitor General Benjamin Aguiñaga, parried with each other and the justices over 1) when government badgering and browbeating cross the line from persuasion to coercion and if that’s the standard for determining whether the government violated the First Amendment by proxy; 2) when, on what topics and/or in what manner the government could call on social-media firms to suppress speech; 3) to what extent government words and threats could be traced to specific instances of censorship; 4) what the practical consequences would be depending on how the court rules; and 5) how to remedy the alleged harms.

Outrageously, the government claimed its purported right to speech would be under threat should the court side with the plaintiffs — a right it acknowledged is not constitutional but part of “democratic governance.”

It lamented it would be subjected to “sprawling audits” if the standards in the case held and it is subjected to oversight and accountability when it threatens our most basic rights.

Our ruling regime, that is, played the victim.

The court’s three most liberal justices, Sonia Sotomayor, Elena Kagan and Ketanji Brown Jackson, unsurprisingly looked to concur with the feds’ perverse view in questioning.

By contrast, Justices Clarence Thomas, Samuel Alito and Neil Gorsuch did not seem favorably disposed to the government’s case.

But Chief Justice John Roberts and Justices Brett Kavanaugh and Amy Coney Barrett were more deferential to it.

The case’s outcome therefore — and our right to free speech in the digital public square — is likely to hinge on how they rule.

Roberts, for example, questioned whether the government was monolithic, insinuating multiple agencies might have different views, diluting its coercive ability.

He asked if a hypothetical “We encourage you to take it down” message from a government official constitutes coercion.

Kavanaugh alluded multiple times to the idea government frequently challenges traditional media the same way it does social-media companies — to sit on or correct stories — without it rising to the level of a First Amendment case.

Barrett seemed to question the clarity of the plaintiffs’ position altogether.

Witnessing oral arguments from inside the room, I thought Aguiñaga was put on his back foot, conceding that if the court took issue with the injunction’s terms or breadth, the plaintiffs would accept narrow tailoring but pleading it “has to say something in our favor on the merits.”

If the court does not, we can kiss what remains of our First Amendment goodbye.

Benjamin Weingarten is editor at large at RealClearInvestigations.

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Public speaking is a challenge for many people. It can be nerve-racking to stand in front of a group of people and give a speech. You may find it even more challenging in a situation where heightened emotion is involved. One example of this is the opening remarks for a funeral. 

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Tips for writing opening remarks for a funeral.

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Sitting down to write out what you want to say is the first step, but even that may feel overwhelming. If you’re grieving, your creativity may feel like it has run dry. 

Sometimes the hardest part is just getting started. Here we’ll share some tips on writing opening remarks for a funeral service. We’ll also provide some examples of ways people have opened funeral speeches. 

Virtual funeral tip: If you're speaking at a virtual funeral using a service like GatheringUs , make sure you know how much time you'll have to speak. If you're hosting the funeral, you can work with GatheringUs to create a detailed itinerary that you'll follow on the day.

Before we look at some examples of opening remarks, let’s break down some tips for writing them.

1. Keep it brief

There are many speaking roles available at funerals. Friends and family members may be asked to give readings of meaningful poems or religious texts. And at many funerals, someone will deliver a eulogy that’s usually between three and five minutes long.

Your opening remarks don’t have to be that long. You should be able to say what you need to say in just a minute or two. 

2. Set the tone

There are many different kinds of funerals. Some are religious, and some are secular. Some have a more somber tone, while others take on a more celebratory bent. There are typically clues to this in the funeral announcement.

For example, generally, people know ahead of time if they’re going to a   celebration of life service as opposed to a more traditional funeral. 

If you’re making opening remarks, make sure they fit in with the overall tone of the service. If the funeral is meant to be a lighthearted celebration, you can infuse your remarks with a little humor. If it’s a serious service honoring a distinguished person, your remarks should be more formal. 

3. Make everyone feel welcome

Funeral opening remarks are almost akin to a   funeral thank you speech . You want to make sure everyone feels as though they have been warmly welcomed.

One way to do that is to express your gratitude to people for coming. Be open and sincere about what their presence means for you. This will make them feel less like an audience and more like they’re part of a meaningful occasion.   

4. Talk about the deceased

If a eulogy is on the schedule for later in the ceremony, you shouldn’t give much biographical background on the deceased, as it might end up being repeated later. But you should speak briefly about the deceased, as they are the person who has brought everyone together. You can refer to them by name, and you can also mention your relationship with them for anyone who doesn’t know.

If you’re including a quote to get started, make sure it’s something you think they would have connected with. That’s an easy way to make your remarks feel more personalized.

5. Get feedback

Since you’re setting the tone for the rest of the service, it’s a good idea to get some feedback on your remarks once you’ve written them .

Work with the person planning the funeral, or with someone who is helping them with logistics. This will ensure that everyone is on the same page.

6. Practice

Public speaking can be anxiety-inducing even for professionals. It can be even more challenging when you’re experiencing profound emotions like grief. Practice your remarks until you feel comfortable delivering them. Repetition like this can help you feel more confident no matter how sad or scared you might feel. 

If you’re speaking at a funeral, chances are you’ve looked up specific resources, like how to write a eulogy . But you may have had a harder time finding a comprehensive guide on writing opening remarks. 

Here are some examples of funeral service opening remarks to help you craft your own.

Sample remarks for a religious funeral

Thessalonians 4:13 reads, “Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope.”

Anyone who knew my mother quickly learned that she was a woman of deep and abiding faith. Though she had been ill for some time she was not sad, nor did she fear death. In the weeks before she passed away, we talked a lot about what was waiting for her after she left the earthly plane. 

She told me that she knew people would be sad, and that was okay. But she hoped that our grief would be tempered by remembering that she has gone to a better place. That was my mother in a nutshell. 

She was always comforting others, even when it probably should have been the other way around. Thank you all for joining our family today to remember such a special and selfless individual.

Sample remarks for a non-religious funeral

Looking around the room today I see many familiar faces, as well as some new ones. This isn’t surprising to me. My sister Marian has always been a gregarious and outgoing person. 

She never met a stranger: everyone was always immediately a potential new friend. It made things interesting. 

Once we were on vacation in a city we’d never been to, and we still managed to run into someone Marian knew. She deeply cared about people, and it warms my heart to see that so many of the people she loved are here. 

Our family looks forward to connecting with you after the service. Thank you all for supporting us through such a difficult loss.

Sample remarks for someone who died suddenly

Maya Angelou once wrote, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” 

My cousin Rebecca was one of those people who always made people feel loved and welcomed. She was always willing to step up and help people in need. She made everyone feel not just good, but also important or valued.

Looking out at everyone here today, I see so many people Rebecca loved. And I realize that even in death, she is looking out for us. The people she has supported are here to support us, and that’s a beautiful feeling.  

Sample remarks for someone who died after a long illness

Greetings, and thank you all for coming today. We are here today to honor a very special person: my dad. As most of you know, my dad has been ill for several years. But no matter how much time we had to prepare for this day, we still don’t feel ready to say goodbye.

We appreciate how many of you have come to support us during this difficult time. As per Dad’s request, today will not be a traditional funeral. Instead, we will have a celebration of life in honor of the joy he brought to so many people.

Sample remarks for a child

A.A. Milne wrote, “If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart, I’ll stay there forever.” 

In just his few short years on this planet, Remy had such a major impact on everyone whose paths he crossed. We appreciate more than we can say that you’ve come to help his family through this difficult time. 

Today, we gather together to remember Remy and the light he brought into our lives. Like me, I know you all will continue keeping him in your hearts today and always.

Set the Tone for a Funeral with Your Opening Remarks

For some people, speaking in public will never be easy. And delivering even a brief speech when you’re in mourning can be extremely challenging. But even if you aren’t comfortable speaking in public, it’s important to honor our loved ones. Speaking about what they meant to their surviving friends and family is a powerful gesture.

The right words can even help bring closure or comfort to grieving loved ones. If you’ve been asked to speak at a funeral, remember that everyone is in the same boat as you are. They’re also in mourning. Even if your speech doesn’t go perfectly, people won’t mind. As long as you speak from the heart, they’ll connect with you. 

If you need more help with planning a funeral or memorial service, read our guides on funeral flowers for grandchildren and what shoes to wear to a funeral . 

Post-planning tip: If you are the executor for a deceased loved one, the funeral isn't the only thing you have to handle. We have a post-loss checklist  that will help you ensure that your loved one's family, estate , and other affairs are taken care of.

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Representative Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez warned on Friday that Israel’s blockade of Gaza had put the territory on the brink of severe famine, saying publicly for the first time that the nation’s wartime actions amounted to an “unfolding genocide.”

In a speech on the House floor, Ms. Ocasio-Cortez, a New York Democrat, forcefully called on President Biden to cut off U.S. military aid to Israel unless and until it begins to allow the free flow of humanitarian assistance into the Gaza Strip.

“If you want to know what an unfolding genocide looks like, open your eyes,” she said. “It looks like the forced famine of 1.1 million innocents. It looks like thousands of children eating grass as their bodies consume themselves, while trucks of food are slowed and halted just miles away.”

The comments were a sharp rhetorical escalation by Ms. Ocasio-Cortez, the de facto leader of the Democratic Party’s left wing, and they illustrated the intense pressure buffeting party officials as they grapple with how to respond to Israel’s war tactics and the deepening humanitarian crisis.

Ms. Ocasio-Cortez, defying party leaders, has been a proponent of a permanent cease-fire since Hamas’s deadly attack on Israel on Oct. 7, and has called for putting conditions on American military aid to Israel. But she had resisted describing the ensuing war, which has killed 30,000 Gazans and left the territory in ruins, as a genocide.

Israel has firmly denied that the term applies, and Ms. Ocasio-Cortez indicated in January that she was waiting for the International Court of Justice to render an opinion on a legal designation. Privately, she has expressed concerns to some allies that the highly contentious term would alienate potential supporters of a cease-fire.

Her position put Ms. Ocasio-Cortez at odds with several members of the progressive bloc she leads in the House, including Representative Cori Bush of Missouri. It also made her an unlikely target of some left-leaning activists: This month, a video went viral of protesters confronting her at a movie theater in New York City and demanding that she use the term.

Allies attributed her embrace of the term on Friday to the worsening humanitarian reality on the ground. The United Nations has warned that much of the Gaza Strip and its 2.2 million residents are now at risk of famine and has pressured Israel to let more food cross in via land.

“Honoring our alliances does not mean facilitating mass killing,” Ms. Ocasio-Cortez said on Friday. “We cannot hide from our responsibility any longer. Blocking assistance from one’s closest allies to starve a million people is not unintentional.”

The immediate reaction to her comments was muted, especially considering the gravity of her charge and how the congresswoman often inspires opposition on the right. The White House, which had been alerted beforehand about her speech, declined to comment, as did several staunch Democratic allies of Israel.

Mr. Biden and top Democratic leaders have insisted on Israel’s right to defend itself and have shown little appetite for curtailing military aid to the country. On the contrary, the administration is pushing for billions of dollars more in military assistance.

The American Israel Public Affairs Committee, a pro-Israel lobby that has clashed with Ms. Ocasio-Cortez, said that accusing Israel of committing genocide was an “obscene perversion of the truth.”

“It is Hamas that has a genocidal goal of destroying the Jewish people, and it is Hamas that is responsible for massive casualties by using Palestinian civilians as human shields,” Marshall Wittmann, the group’s spokesman, said in a statement that did not mention Ms. Ocasio-Cortez by name.

Some antiwar activists praised the speech, but others argued that Ms. Ocasio-Cortez was moving too belatedly.

“AOC is 30,000+ deaths too late to this,” Hafsa Halawa, a nonresident scholar at the Middle East Institute in Washington, wrote on X . “You want congressional heroes, Cori Bush is where you should look.”

The speech came at a precarious moment in the war. Officials fear the situation in Gaza could grow more dire if Israel follows through with an attack on the southern Gazan city of Rafah, where more than a million civilians have sought refuge.

The Biden administration has pushed Israel to forgo the attack. And after months of steadfast support for Israel, the president himself has become increasingly outspoken about the humanitarian crisis, introducing a U.N. Security Council resolution this week calling for “an immediate and sustained cease-fire” in Gaza.

The resolution failed, but progressives aligned with Ms. Ocasio-Cortez have taken Mr. Biden’s firmer stance as evidence that their tactics are working.

She sought to increase that pressure on Friday, speaking not through social media or a news interview but a traditional four-minute speech on the House floor.

The remarks came just after the House voted on a $1.2 trillion government funding bill that would temporarily cut off aid to the main U.N. agency that provides assistance to Palestinians. Ms. Ocasio-Cortez was among 22 Democrats to vote against the spending plan.

She began her remarks by invoking Mr. Biden’s own words from a 2011 speech when he was vice president, calling him “a decent man.” Mr. Biden said then that stopping genocides was “an achievable goal” while lamenting that too often real action came “too late, after the best and least costly opportunities to prevent them have been missed.”

Echoing those words, Ms. Ocasio-Cortez said the United States risked repeating past mistakes. She said relatively little about Israel’s bombing campaign or ground invasions, but referred specifically to a Biden administration plan to put a temporary floating pier off Gaza’s coastline to ease the transit of goods, warning it would be “too late” to stave off the worst.

“The time is now to force compliance with U.S. law and the standards of humanity,” she said, calling for the administration to “suspend the transfer of U.S. weapons to the Israeli government in order to stop and prevent further atrocity.”

“This is not just about Israel or Gaza,” Ms. Ocasio-Cortez added. “This is about us.”

Michael D. Shear contributed reporting.

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​In Gaza, officials are struggling to count the dead because many bodies are trapped beneath rubble. The buried make up a shadow death toll in the territory.

​António Guterres, the U.N. secretary general, reiterated his call for an immediate cease-fire in Gaza  during  a visit to a border crossing in Egypt, calling conditions in the territory a “moral outrage.”

​A U.S. bid to have the U.N. Security Council call for “an immediate and sustained cease-fire” in Gaza failed after Russia and China vetoed the resolution , which included some of Washington’s strongest language since the start of the war.

A Power Vacuum: Since the start of the war, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu of Israel has done little to address the power vacuum that would appear after Israeli forces leave Gaza. The risks of inaction are already apparent in Gaza City .

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A Tough Balancing Act: Israel has been noticeably out of step with Western nations when it comes to relations with Russia since the invasion of Ukraine. That approach reflects unique security needs that have gained new relevance  since the start of the war in Gaza.

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Losing a loved one is an incredibly difficult experience, and when it comes to saying goodbye to your grandfather, the task of delivering a funeral speech may seem daunting. However, eulogies can be a beautiful opportunity to honour the life and memory of a cherished family patriarch. With heartfelt words, you can capture the essence of your grandfather's life, his values, and his impact on those around him. In this article, we'll guide you through the key elements to include in your funeral speech and provide some examples that may help.

Start your eulogy by introducing yourself and mentioning your connection to your grandfather. This will help the audience understand your relationship and form an emotional connection to the speech that follows.

Anecdotes give a meaningful insight into your grandfather's life and character. Select stories that showcase his personality traits and impact on other people, to bring a sense of warmth and familiarity. Family stories, whether funny or poignant, also offer a way to connect others in the audience who shared those moments.

Remember to speak about your grandfather's accomplishments, such as career milestones, hobbies, or volunteer activities. This not only illustrates his passions and drive but also inspires those in attendance to live in a similar manner.

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Discuss the wisdom your grandfather imparted and how he lived his life according to his values. This can include his approach to family, hard work, and community or the ways he supported and loved those around him.

Express your gratitude for having your grandfather in your life and the positive effects he had on you and your family. You might also want to acknowledge the role he played as a husband, father or sibling, as well as his friendships.

In closing, provide words of comfort and inspiration for those in mourning. You may want to include a quote, prayer or reading that encapsulates your grandfather's memory and brings solace to the grieving.

Gathering here today to honor the memory of a woman whose life was a tapestry of love, resilience, and grace, we pay tribute to a beloved mother, whose influence and legacy are as indelible as they are cherished. As we reflect on her life, we are reminded of the strength of her character, the warmth of her love, and the depth of her wisdom. This eulogy, though it can capture but a fraction of her essence, is a testament to the profound impact she had on all who were fortunate enough to know her.

Born into a world much different from the one she left, our mother was a beacon of change, embodying the virtues of compassion, perseverance, and unconditional love. From her earliest days, she was a nurturer, always there to offer a comforting word, a healing touch, and a listening ear. Her life was a journey marked by the challenges she faced, each one met with unwavering courage and an unbreakable spirit that inspired those around her.

Her story is not just one of survival but of flourishing against the odds. She was a woman who balanced the demands of life with the grace of someone who understood the true value of time. She knew when to speak and when to listen, when to lead and when to follow. Her wisdom, often shared over cups of tea at the kitchen table, was a guiding light for her family, imbued with the kind of insight that only a life well-lived can impart.

Mother was the heart of our family, the glue that held us together through thick and thin. She was our confidante, our pillar of strength, and our source of unconditional love. Her laughter filled our home with joy, her presence brought peace, and her guidance instilled in us the values we hold dear. She taught us the importance of kindness, the strength found in gentleness, and the value of hard work. Her legacy is not found in material possessions but in the love she gave, the lives she touched, and the family she built and nurtured.

Her love for life was evident in everything she did, from her beautiful garden that bloomed with as much care and attention as she gave her children, to her art that was as expressive and vibrant as her personality. She had an incredible ability to find beauty in the mundane, to create joy in the simplest of moments, and to inspire others to see the world through her eyes.

Professionally, she was a force to be reckoned with, a woman who broke barriers and paved the way for future generations of women to follow. Her career was marked by achievements that were all the more remarkable considering the times in which she lived. Yet, she wore her accomplishments lightly, always more interested in lifting others up than in her own accolades.

But perhaps her greatest gift was her ability to love unconditionally. To be loved by her was to know true acceptance, to feel valued for who you are, and to be supported in all of life's endeavors. She had a unique ability to make each of us feel like the most important person in the world, offering her love without reservation or condition.

In her final days, as she faced the inevitability of life's end, she did so with the same dignity, grace, and faith that characterized her entire life. She reminded us that while death is a part of life, love endures forever. She encouraged us to live fully, to love deeply, and to face each day with hope and gratitude.

Today, as we gather to say goodbye, we are reminded of the lessons she taught us: to live with purpose, to lead with love, and to leave the world a little better than we found it. Her physical presence may be gone, but her spirit lives on in each of us, in the memories we cherish, the love we share, and the lives we lead because of her influence.

Our mother was a remarkable woman, whose legacy will continue to inspire and guide us. As we celebrate her life and mourn her passing, let us honor her memory by embodying the values she lived by. Let us be kind to one another, support each other, and love without limits, just as she did.

In closing, we bid farewell to a woman of incomparable strength, boundless love, and enduring legacy. Our mother, our mentor, our friend. Though we will miss her every day, we take comfort in knowing that her love surrounds us, her wisdom guides us, and her spirit is forever woven into the fabric of our lives.

Farewell, dear mother. Your love was our greatest gift, your life our greatest lesson. May you rest in peace, knowing you were loved beyond words and will be remembered always.

In the quiet reflection of dawn, as we gather to remember a life that was a beacon of love and resilience, we pay homage to a mother whose presence was a gift to all who knew her. This eulogy, crafted with deep affection and profound respect, seeks to honor her remarkable journey, the indelible mark she left on the hearts of those she touched, and the enduring legacy of her spirit.

From the moment of her first breath, it was evident that she was someone special. Her life was a testament to the power of grace under pressure, to the strength inherent in kindness, and to the unwavering belief in the goodness of others. Her story is not merely one of the roles she played but of the lives she transformed through her extraordinary capacity for love, her tireless service, and her innate ability to see beauty in the everyday.

She was a woman of incredible depth and complexity, navigating the challenges of life with a poise that belied the strength it required. She possessed an unparalleled ability to balance the demands of life with the needs of her heart, nurturing her family with a love so profound it became the foundation upon which we built our lives. Her wisdom, dispensed with a gentle firmness, guided us through the tumultuous journey of life, offering solace and direction in our moments of doubt.

Her laughter was a melody that filled our home, a sound so rich and full of joy it could dispel the darkest of clouds. She found happiness in the simplest of pleasures—a book in her hands, the beauty of a sunset, the quiet company of her garden. Yet, her greatest joy was her family. To us, she was not just a mother; she was the architect of our world, crafting a sanctuary of love and understanding that sheltered us from the storms of life.

In her eyes, we saw the reflection of our best selves, a reminder of her unshakeable belief in our potential. She was our first teacher, not only in words but in actions, demonstrating the virtues of compassion, integrity, and resilience. Her legacy is not encapsulated by the achievements she garnered but by the character she modeled, the lives she enriched, and the unconditional love she bestowed.

Her journey was not devoid of adversity. She faced each challenge with a dignity that inspired those around her, turning obstacles into opportunities to demonstrate her strength and grace. In her, we witnessed the true embodiment of courage—not the absence of fear, but the determination to move forward despite it.

Professionally, she was a trailblazer, a woman who navigated her path with skill and determination. Her work was more than a career; it was a calling, a means to make a difference in the world, to advocate for those without a voice, and to pave the way for future generations. She approached her responsibilities with a seriousness of purpose, yet always remained humble, recognizing the value of every contribution, regardless of its size.

But beyond her accomplishments and roles, she was a beacon of light and love. Her presence was a comfort, her advice a treasure, and her love a sanctuary. In her embrace, we found our peace, our strength, and our home.

As we bid farewell to this extraordinary woman, let us not dwell on the sorrow of her absence but celebrate the gift of her life. She taught us the importance of living with purpose, loving without reservation, and leaving the world a little better than we found it. Today, we honor her not just with our words but by living the values she instilled in us, by carrying forward the legacy of her love, and by embodying the virtues she lived by.

To our beloved mother, your journey here may have ended, but your spirit lives on in us. You were our guide, our inspiration, and our light. In our hearts, you will forever dwell, guiding us still with your wisdom, warming us with your love, and inspiring us with your legacy.

Farewell, dear mother. Your love shaped us, your strength fortified us, and your legacy will forever inspire us. Rest in peace, knowing that your life was a masterpiece of love, a symphony of grace, and a legacy of beauty that will endure through the ages.

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At Eulogy Assistant , we recognize the significance of collaboration in crafting an eulogy that deeply touches the heart. Working hand in hand with you, we weave your personal experiences and heartfelt expressions with our professional expertise, crafting a tribute that honors with sincerity and connects emotionally.

Our approach is built on authentic communication and shared creative vision. Your personal stories and reflections are key in developing a narrative that truly captures the essence of your spiritual mentor's legacy. This task is about more than recounting events; it's about painting the richness of their spiritual journey and the depth of their impact.

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What is Appropriate to Say in a Funeral Speech for a Grandfather?

In a funeral speech for a grandfather, it's appropriate to share fond memories, highlight his character, express the impact he had on your life, and acknowledge the loss felt by the family.

How Do I Begin a Funeral Speech for My Grandfather?

Begin by introducing yourself and your relationship with your grandfather. A brief expression of what he meant to you can be a heartfelt start.

What Should I Include in My Grandfather’s Funeral Speech?

Include personal anecdotes, lessons learned from him, his life achievements, and the legacy he leaves behind.

How Long Should the Speech Be?

A funeral speech for a grandfather typically lasts between 3 to 5 minutes, enough to convey heartfelt sentiments while respecting the audience's attention.

Can I Share a Humorous Story About My Grandfather?

If it's reflective of his personality and your relationship, a light humorous story can be a touching tribute, as long as it's appropriate for the occasion.

How Can I Make the Speech Personal and Touching?

Personalize the speech by sharing specific memories, discussing his unique traits, and expressing how he personally influenced and inspired you.

Is It Okay to Mention the Sadness of His Passing?

Yes, it's okay to express sadness, as it acknowledges the depth of the loss and the significance of his presence in your life.

How Do I Conclude My Speech?

Conclude with a final message of farewell, a note of gratitude, or a reflection on his lasting impact on your life and the lives of others.

Can I Include My Grandfather’s Favorite Quote or Saying?

Including his favorite quote or saying can add a personal touch and bring his personality into the speech.

How Should I Address the Rest of My Family in the Speech?

Address your family with empathy, acknowledging the shared loss and the collective memories you all hold of your grandfather.

What Tone Should I Aim for in My Speech?

The tone should be respectful, affectionate, and reflective, capturing the essence of your relationship with your grandfather.

Can I Discuss How My Grandfather Overcame Challenges?

Talking about how he overcame challenges can be inspiring, highlighting his strength, resilience, and the wisdom he shared.

How Do I Manage My Emotions While Speaking?

It's normal to be emotional. Speak from the heart, take pauses if needed, and remember that showing emotion is a natural part of the tribute.

Should I Share Stories About My Grandfather’s Youth?

Stories about his youth can provide insight into his life journey and the experiences that shaped him into the person you knew and loved.

How Can I Prepare for Delivering the Speech?

Prepare by practicing the speech, focusing on the memories and points you wish to convey, and considering the emotional weight of the occasion.

Is It Okay to Show Emotion During the Speech?

Yes, showing emotion is natural and acceptable. It reflects the depth of your feelings for your grandfather.

Can I Invite Others to Share Their Memories?

Inviting others to share their memories can be a way to offer a more comprehensive tribute to your grandfather’s life.

How Do I Handle Becoming Too Emotional to Continue?

If you become too emotional, take a moment to compose yourself. It's okay to pause or have someone else ready to step in if necessary.

What If I Didn’t Know My Grandfather Very Well?

Focus on the impact he had on the family, any interactions you had with him, and the values he embodied throughout his life.

Can I Use the Speech to Offer Comfort to Others?

Offering words of comfort to others can be a significant part of the speech, acknowledging the shared grief and the support you have for each other.

How Can I Ensure My Speech Honors My Grandfather’s Memory?

To honor his memory, focus on celebrating his life, the love he shared, and the lessons he taught, rather than dwelling on the loss.

Delivering a funeral speech for your grandfather can feel overwhelming. Still, by focusing on sharing heartfelt anecdotes and the life lessons he taught, your eulogy can serve as a tribute to his memory and bring comfort to those mourning. As you prepare your eulogy, Eulogy Assistant can help you craft the perfect, personal tribute to honour the life and memory of your beloved grandfather.

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Kate Middleton Speaks Out About Her Cancer Diagnosis

"It has been an incredibly tough couple of months," the Princess of Wales said.

Kate Middleton has cancer, Kensington Palace announced this afternoon.

In tandem with the announcement, the Palace released a video message from the Princess of Wales.

"I wanted to take this opportunity to say thank you, personally, for all the wonderful messages of support and for your understanding whilst I have been recovering from surgery," she begins. "It has been an incredibly tough couple of months for our entire family, but I’ve had a fantastic medical team who have taken great care of me, for which I am so grateful."

The Princess then goes on to discuss her children, and how she had to wait to recover from her surgery before she began chemo. "As you can imagine, this has taken time. It has taken me time to recover from major surgery in order to start my treatment," Kate says. "But, most importantly, it has taken us time to explain everything to George, Charlotte and Louis in a way that is appropriate for them, and to reassure them that I am going to be ok. As I have said to them; I am well and getting stronger every day by focusing on the things that will help me heal; in my mind, body and spirits."

Kate continues, sharing that her husband's support has been key throughout the entire ordeal. "Having William by my side is a great source of comfort and reassurance too. As is the love, support and kindness that has been shown by so many of you. It means so much to us both," she says.

She ends with a plea for privacy, and offers no specifics on when she will return to public duties: "We hope that you will understand that, as a family, we now need some time, space and privacy while I complete my treatment. My work has always brought me a deep sense of joy and I look forward to being back when I am able, but for now I must focus on making a full recovery."

Kate ends her video with a message to all those who have been affected by cancer. "At this time, I am also thinking of all those whose lives have been affected by cancer. For everyone facing this disease, in whatever form, please do not lose faith or hope. You are not alone," she says.

Watch Kate's full video message here:

The video was filmed by BBC Studios early this week at Windsor Castle, on Wednesday March 20, 2024.

Emily Burack (she/her) is the Senior News Editor for Town & Country, where she covers entertainment, culture, the royals, and a range of other subjects. Before joining T&C, she was the deputy managing editor at Hey Alma , a Jewish culture site. Follow her @emburack on Twitter and Instagram .

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Royal family’s cancer diagnoses echo the ‘annus horribilis’

Traumas and revelations of the past 12 months bring to mind the late queen’s speech from 1992

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When the late queen stood up to give a speech marking 40 years on the throne, in November 1992, she conceded to the assembled dignitaries, and the watching nation, that her family had had an “annus horribilis”.

The phrase came to be remembered as an acknowledgment that even the staunchly dutiful monarch, who rarely betrayed emotion, had felt the cumulative effects of a series of blows.

Yet the past 12 months have surely been marked out as ranking among the most traumatic for the royal family in living memory.

In 1992, the revelations included the release of salacious details about the troubled private lives of Diana and Charles, the Prince and Princess of Wales; the separation of the queen’s son Prince Andrew , and the divorce of the queen’s daughter, Princess Anne; and the fire that had raged through Windsor Castle.

The queen’s unusually frank admission was followed by a yet more tumultuous period: five years later, Diana died in a car crash, casting a deep shadow over the lives of Prince William and his brother, Prince Harry.

Recent months have brought a furore about the manipulation of a picture of Catherine with her children, which set social media aflame with outlandish conspiracy theories after weeks of speculation about the much-loved princess’s health.

Catherine’s admission to hospital was announced in January, on the same day as King Charles III’s own diagnosis with an unspecified cancer.

The lack of detail about either’s condition, and the royal family’s silence during the ensuing weeks and then months, fed a sense that the public had not been told the whole story.

Friday’s statement addresses the legitimate concerns about transparency head on, explaining that her condition was initially believed not to be cancerous, and that she and Prince William wanted time to explain the news to their children.

Catherine’s diagnosis, and the king’s, came less than a year after the lavish ceremony at Westminster Abbey in which Charles III was anointed, at the age of 74, by the archbishop of Canterbury, and which the family may have hoped would usher in a new era of stability.

A few months earlier, Charles had led mourners at his mother’s funeral, after hundreds of thousands of members of the public queued through the night and around the block to pay homage to her coffin, amid an outpouring of grief.

Family tensions and troubles were evident even at the time of the funeral. Prince Andrew did not wear military uniform as he walked behind his mother’s coffin, after having been stripped of his royal duties in the wake of claims of sexual abuse made in a US court case, which the prince has always denied.

Harry returned for the funeral of his beloved grandmother; but his presence only served to underline his semi-detached status.

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Just a few months earlier, in January, he had published a brutally revealing memoir, Spare, which included allegations that he and his brother had once come to blows, as well as less-than-edifying details about losing his virginity.

Harry has also continued to fight a series of very public court cases against the British press, which serve to remind the public of his fraught status. He has also been battling the government in court – unsuccessfully – over whether the taxpayer should foot the bill for his personal security when he visits the UK.

King Charles’s brother, Prince Andrew, continues to be an ongoing source of humiliation, with a forthcoming Netflix drama set to rehash the devastating Emily Maitlis interview in which he was questioned about his friendship with the late convicted sex offender Jeffrey Epstein.

And Charles had barely had time to establish himself as reigning monarch, the post he had waited his life to occupy, before his own diagnosis forced him to reduce his public duties.

For William and Catherine, however, all these tribulations, which have chipped away at the monarchy’s air of unflappable majesty, are likely to pale into insignificance alongside the daunting family drama they now face, in the glare of the public eye.

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