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Writing a wedding speech.

Speech writing is not easy and writing a wedding speech is even more challenging. So we’re here to relieve your pain and ease your worries by writing a memorable speech for you. With your personalised input, we'll write your wedding speech quickly and professionally.

You could spend hours trawling through the internet trying to cut and paste your speech, inserting jokes here or there. However, a copied speech won’t have your voice and it will be easy to tell that the words aren’t your own. Don’t you think the bride or groom who chose you, deserve an authentic and heartfelt speech?

A wedding speech should be an intimate expression of your feelings. Your wedding speech should be unique and personal. We’ll help you craft a wedding speech that is tailored by and written for you.  And don't forget, our wedding speech writing service is completely confidential - no-one will ever know you didn't write it yourself!

  “I would like to tell you that the Father of the Bride speech you wrote for me connected so well with the guests that at the end I had a rapturous applause.  But the best moment for me was when my daughter said to me - Dad that was a great speech.   Carole, thanks for writing me such a beautiful speech.”  Mark R.

Father Of The Bride

As a proud father, you'll share happy memories in a sincere and heartfelt speech that will include all the sentiment and feelings that you want to convey

Maid Of Honour

Prepare your Maid of Honour or Bridesmaid speech today. With the duties that come with helping the bride on her big day, don't delay writing your speech

Best Man Speech

You will be the best man with the best speech and the best stories to tell that will leave the groom feeling happy and relieved knowing he's made the right choice

Bride Speech

This is your moment to stand up behind the microphone by breaking with tradition and sharing all those special hopes and dreams that are now coming true

Groom Speech

Are you feeling really nervous about writing your Grooms wedding speech? Don't worry, we'll write it for you with a professional touch (and no-one will know!)

Our speech coaching service will help you to overcome your nerves if you're not fully confident to stand up in public. Learn strategies to engage your audience

We're a small group of professional wedding speech writers who compose exceptional speeches for you. Your speech will be customised to reflect your thoughts and feelings for a very special day. We are wedding speech experts! Let us remove the stress of writing your wedding speech. And don't forget - our speech writing service is completely confidential and no-one will ever know that you didn't write it yourself!

We can edit your existing speech or write a new one from scratch. We’ve written speeches for clients from South Africa to Australia, and we’re excited to help you.

We also offer coaching services to help you deliver the perfect speech. Our principal writer, Carole Spiers is an author and motivational speaker, she will give you the hints and tips needed to help you deliver your speech with poise and panache. Coaching consultations are conducted in-person or via Skype -depending on what works out best for you.

How Can We Help You?

Given that you’re speaking of people you know and love, you already have an idea of what you want to include in your wedding speech. Funny stories and tasteful jokes are the parts of the speech that only you can provide; we help you incorporate them into a memorable speech. If you’re having sleepless nights and don’t know where to start, or finish, we take away all the hassle by providing you with a uniquely personal speech.

Traditional Wedding Speeches

Years ago, it was traditional for only the Groom, Best Man and Father of the Bride to make a wedding speech. The idea of three speeches being given by three men has become a thing of the past. Maids of Honour, Bridesmaids, and Mothers of the Bride or Groom now deliver wedding speeches.

A Wedding speech should involve and excite the audience, not put them to sleep! Speeches can be put to music; they can include stories from the past and be brought to life with pictures. The choices are endless and there is a great opportunity to be creative and deliver one of the best wedding speeches a guest has ever heard.

It’s very easy to get emotional at a wedding, but your wedding speech isn’t the time for tears. Remember, you aren’t speaking to just the bride and groom, you’re there for the guests as well.

Our Unique Features

• All wedding speeches are composed by wedding speech writer, Carole Spiers and her team.
• Confidential – no one need ever know you haven't written it yourself.
• Quick turnaround. We've never missed a wedding yet!
• Don’t waste time, check below to find out how you can have a wedding speech to be proud of.

How To Get Started

• Select your wedding speech e.g. Groom, Bride, Best Man, Father of the Bride or Maid of Honour
• Make the required payment online
• Download our wedding speech questionnaire for completion
• Your wedding speech will be then written and sent back to you for approval within 3 days.

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We had a wonderful wedding last month and my father of the bride speech went down brilliantly and I received loads of compliments. I can't thank you enough for your help. I have to say I was unsure of coming to you at first, but I am so delighted that I took the plunge and did so.

Absolutely perfect. We got married last month and my wedding speech is still the ‘talk of the town’. My bride was proud of me, my parents couldn’t believe their ears, and I think my in-laws were rather impressed! Thank goodness I found you. The wedding speech you wrote for me was exactly what I wanted to say. I can’t thank you enough. You took all my stress away!

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“MY GOODNESS.!.!.! Fantastic! Now I know why you guys do this for a living.!.!.!. I did think it would  be good but this has blown whatever I imagined for my wedding speech out the water.”  – Rich C.

The internet is full of wedding speech templates and cut-and-paste jokes.  We are proud to use none of them.  Every wedding speech we write starts with a blank piece of paper and is based entirely on information you provide (face-to-face, over the phone or via email).  We are also delighted to give our feedback on a speech you have already written, and happy to edit it as required.

A generation ago, the speeches at a typical wedding were often restricted to the groom and a friend of the bride’s family (often a Godfather).  Now, the father of the bride, groom and best man will almost always speak, and there may be more!

The wedding speeches we write most regularly are listed below.  Where relevant they are linked to a page offering more information and advice.  Please do contact us if you are stuck, or in need of someone to take the strain.

• Father of the Bride Speech
• Groom Speech
• Best Man Speech / Joint Best Man Speech
• Bride Speech
• Mother of the Bride Speech
• Bridesmaid / Maid of Honour Speech
• Usher Speech
• Father of the Groom Speech
• Engagement Party Speech
• Step Father of the Bride Speech

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Our wedding speeches has been featured in a number of radio shows, newspapers and magazines . We are also the Wedding Community’s  preferred speech writing service and have recently been featured by the Wedding Directory .

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Writing a Wedding Speech

What we can do for you., the wedding.

It's a memory that will live with all the people there! Making a speech for such a special moment can be very scary - and how many of us can stand in front of a crowd of people without being nervous? Don't be! It's a simple technique that, with a bit of practice, you will not only conquer those fears but you will deliver something very special memorable and unique. It starts by believing in your ability and not let nervousness have a say. It is you who are speaking - and you can do this. Let us work together to make this a memory that will last a lifetime.

Writing a Wedding Speech is something that is expected, but can be a challenge for even the most confident. Just because you are the Groom, Best Man, Father of the Bride, etc, it doesn't mean you are a confident writer or speaker. Naturally, you will want to make the right impression. You will be not only meeting, but speaking in front of many people you may never have met before. It is a nerve-wracking enough experience in itself, without have the worry about wondering if what you are saying is appropriate!

This is what we can do for you. We can tailor a memorable speech for you, saving all that worry. You can concentrate on the rest of the preparations, without having the added stress knowing that you can't keep putting off writing your speech for ever. All you need to do is let us know the key points you want to raise. The funny moments, the serious times, the important things that ought to be mentioned.

We can take your input and tailor your speech. Not only will it be written specifically for you, it will sound like you have written an excellent speech yourself.

How Can We Help You?

Your speech is about people you know and love. Therefore, you will already have some idea of the things you want to say in your wedding speech. Anecdotes, jokes (tasteful, of course!) and little bits of "off the wall" history about them are those special things that you know. These are key factors for a memorable speech. You have the knowledge for the content of a fascinating, interesting and entertaining speech. You may not feel you have the necessary skills to create and deliver that speech. This is where we come in. We craft your knowledge into the speech you wish you were able to write yourself. We take the stress of all the behind the scenes work, leaving you to enjoy reading your speech and seeing your attentive audience.

Traditional Wedding Speeches

Once upon a time, it was traditional for certain people at the wedding to say certain things and toast certain people. You may still wish to follow this protocol. On the other hand, it is your personal and special day, and there is no reason at all why you shouldn't be different. No longer is it solely the domain of the Groom, Best Man and Father of the Bride. If you want someone else to speak at your wedding, then let them!

Furthermore, the days of the Best Man reading out the telegrams from those unable to attend are long gone. Throw caution to the wind, and do what you feel appropriate - a song and dance if you really want to! There are unlimited possibilities and, whilst you shouldn't bore your guests to death with endless irrelevant speeches, there is plenty of room for anyone to have their say. If in doubt, we can help you decide who to speak - and for how long.

We Edit Your Speech.

You write your speech, and send it to us. We will then go through it with you and tweak your wording and give you constructive feedback.

Unlimited edits and telephone support mean together we can hone your speech to perfection!

We allow up to 48 hours for this process.

We Write Your Speech.

We write your speech, based on the notes you send. We will then go through it with you and tweak the wording to suit you.

We allow up to 72 hours for this process.

Helping You Deliver Your Speech.

Not everyone is an expert speaker! However, we can help you to deal with your nerves, teach you how to engage with your audience - and deliver you perfect speech so that it will be remembered for all the right reasons!

We offer 1, 2 or 3 hour sessions.

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speechesmadeeasy.co.uk made preparing my groom's speech a breeze. It helped me lay a solid foundation which I was quickly able to iterate upon to build a perfect speech for the big day."

Oliver Thompson

a great help for my best man speech. It struck a good balance between humor and sincerity, and the best part – it saved me a whole ton of time. Definitely a convenient tool for crafting a solid speech, and all for the cost of a couple of pints!!

Michael Anderson

A time saver which helped me build my speech in record time. I used the speech as a good template and then added my own touches.

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One of the highlights of any wedding day are the speeches. However, it's also an incredibly hectic time for those involved and finding time to write that touching, witty and memorable speech can seem a bit daunting. Which is where I come in...

So, to avoid writing your speech on the back of a napkin during the pudding, why not let me take the reins, and I can take all the pressure off you? I can even give you tips as to how best to learn and deliver the speech. 

The process is simple. You can either email or call me, and we can discuss what kind of speech you're looking for. If you wish to go ahead, I will then send you a questionnaire which is designed to get all the information I need to write your bespoke speech. When filling in the questionnaire, the rule of thumb is simple. The more information, colour and stories (not all of them have to be embarrassing!) I am given by the client, the more I can work with. 

A bit about me - I've been working as a freelance writer for over 23 years, and writing wedding speeches for the past six years.

As a professional writer I've worked with comedians such as Al Murray, Jimmy Carr, Lenny Henry, Joan Rivers, Jason Manford, Matt Forde and many more. I've also worked on numerous TV shows, including Danger Mouse (He's asked me to write his best man speech when Penfold meets the right hamster).

Wedding speech prices

Best man - person of honour  , groom - celebrant  , bride - celebrant  , father of the bride - parent of the celebrant, after dinner speeches, need help with your after dinner speech.

If you need an after dinner speech or help to edit an existing speech you've come to the right place. 

If you're someone who needs their after dinner speech to be beefed up or someone who's never done it before I can help. Whether your audience

is corporate or perhaps you're speaking at a sports dinner or an awards ceremony I can make your life that much easier.

Sit back, and let me take the strain and you can take all the accolades.  No one ever need know you didn't write it yourself.

After Dinner Speaking (Corporate, Awards Ceremonies)  Between £400 - £2,000

If you would like to discuss your speech please contact me.

Testimonials

"Matt helped me with my wedding speech, He's a very good writer and a very nice guy." - Tom

“For someone well into his middle age and who has never had to give an after dinner speech the thought of this was quite daunting. However I shouldn’t have worried. With the help of Mathew in structuring the speech what could have been an overwhelming occasion was made almost relaxing” - Mike 

"Matt was great at molding and adapting the speech to the occasion. He helped take the stress out of it and gave me confidence that everything would go well on the day." - Robert

"Matt is one of those people that can take the most muddled of mundane and turn it into a story - from a chat over a cup of tea on a Sunday morning he produced the most amazing of father of the bride speeches - funny, touching and memorable - yet made it sound as if it were written by the Father of the Bride himself.

His ability to pick put small details and tease out a story from an emotionally repressed northerner was so very much appreciated - except maybe by the Best Man who followed afterwards with a far too long, ripped from the internet repost, delivered badly ...

If I needed the help of a thought straightener/mind mining speechwriter again I would go straight back to Matt - whilst the line about the 'middle class mafia hit' didn't make it into the final version (for proprieties sake) I still cant go past a Waitrose without chuckling." -  Andrew

"Thank you very much for a fantastic speech! So witty, I'm so happy with it" - Alex

"Wow! It's superb, I love it and grateful for the quick turnaround." - Gareth

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(*Of course, if you’re looking for more than ‘advice’, check out all the different ways the Speechy team can help you write & deliver a great speech. Or check out our new AI-powered team member, SpeechyAI .)

With a knack for capturing the essence of love and commitment, our Wedding Vow Writers are here to help you craft the perfect promises for your special day.

Meet The Team

The Speechy team is a team with creditability, a great sense of humour, and an obsession with all love stories.

The team consists of seasoned wordsmiths who are passionate about romance and the power of words. With diverse backgrounds in TV scripting, ghost-writing for comedians, and writing books such as The Modern Couple’s Guide to Wedding Speeches , our writers bring a wealth of experience and a deep understanding of the intricacies of romantic expression.

We’re dedicated to helping you create vows that reflect your unique bond and that bring out the best in both of you.

Personalised Service

We understand that every love story is unique, and we take pride in offering a personal service that caters to your specific needs and preferences.

Whether you’re looking for heartfelt and traditional vows or something more modern and unconventional, our team works closely with you to understand your love story, your values, and your vision for the future.

We believe that your wedding vows should be a true reflection of your journey as a couple, and we are committed to bringing your narrative to life through our expertly crafted words. Read our wedding vow blog to get a sense of the various types of wedding vows you can deliver.

Crafting The Perfect Promise

With our Wedding Vow Writing service, you can expect a collaborative and stress-free experience.

We encourage our clients to fill in a questionnaire prior to talking to us, as we generally find it’s hard for people to be immediately and spontaneously insightful about love.

Our writers will then schedule consultations to get to know you and your partner better, discussing your relationship dynamics, shared experiences, and the values that bind you together. Taking into account your preferences and style, we will draft vows that capture the essence of your love, tailored to evoke the emotions you wish to convey on your special day.

We always encourage clients to move away from cliched platitudes and be specific and honest about the reality of their everyday relationship. We also encourage couples to add some humour and lightness to their vows when appropriate.

The Speechy Difference

What sets our Wedding Vow Writing service apart is our commitment to creating vows that are not only beautifully crafted but also deeply meaningful.

We believe that your wedding vows should be more than just words; they should be a timeless declaration of your love and commitment to one another, and the epi-center of the day.

Our team’s expertise lies in translating complex emotions into eloquent and heartfelt vows that will resonate with you, your partner, and your guests, leaving a lasting impression and getting all of your guests rooting for your relationship that little bit more!

Make Your Vows Unforgettable

Don’t let the pressure of writing your wedding vows dampen your celebration. Trust our team of Wedding Vow Writers to help you articulate your love and commitment with grace, humour, and eloquence.

Find out more about our Bespoke Wedding Vows Service .

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The Speechy team  are TV-trained scriptwriters/comedians by trade & we’ve helped 1,000s of speakers around the world deliver their dream speech.

Our advice has been quoted everywhere from  The New York Times  to  Grazia  and from Forbes to The Observer . Our founder has also featured on the  BBC Sounds’ Best Men podcast with Jason Manford and written ‘ The Modern Couple’s Guide to Wedding Speeches’ , published by Little, Brown.

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10 Steps to Writing the Perfect Wedding Speech

Writing the perfect wedding speech is difficult so we spoke to the experts to help you get pen to paper before the big day!

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Writing your wedding speech is an important part of the wedding planning process. But, no matter whether you’re giving the groom , best man , bride or father of the bride speech , it can be hard to know where to start!

If you’re struggling to think of something to say or simply need to know how to structure your speech, our experts can help.

We’ve rounded up some of the most useful advice which should help you start your wedding speech writing journey feeling confident!

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1. Start Planning Early

We all know the old saying ‘failing to prepare is preparing to fail’ and that is certainly the case when it comes to your speech. As soon as you know you’re going to be giving a speech, start writing a few notes every time you think of something interesting.

Adam Cockering from Adaptable Speechwriting suggests: “Prepare your thoughts first. Split each area of the speech into sections and brainstorm each part. For example, if a father of the bride wants to describe an endearing feature of his daughter, start with the feature and think of everything you can say about it and jot it down.”

2. Introduce Yourself

It can be easy to forget to introduce yourself when you’re already nervous about giving a speech. Of course, if you’re the bride or groom, then no introduction is necessary.

But, if you don’t know every single guest, it’s likely that a few people will be wondering who you are. Start off by saying hello and let everyone know your name and how you know the couple.

Then, crack on to the fun, more interesting aspects of the speech as quickly as possible without having everyone wondering, “Who is this again?”

3. Consider Your Audience

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Chris Dance is a professional speechwriter and says it’s really important to think about your audience.

“You might be the funniest person in the pub every night, but the things that make your mates roar may well send elderly relatives rushing to phone a taxi. It’s highly likely you won’t have met a lot of the guests before, so unless you’re being best man to Roy ‘Chubby’ Brown and the wedding guests are all from his fan club, try to steer clear of sensitive subjects. Smut, filth and politics should be avoided wherever possible. Particularly Brexit. Don’t mention Brexit.”

If in doubt, always leave it out or run it by someone else to see what they think. Make sure you ask someone trust-worthy. We’re thinking a sensible bridesmaid, rather than the guy from the stag do that lost his passport!

4. Include Original Jokes

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Whether it’s a father of bride sharing a funny tale about his daughter as a child or the best man telling embarrassing stories about the groom, everyone will be waiting for the jokes! You may find the old stories hilarious but how can you make sure that you get some laughs from the wedding guests?

Chris says jokes need to be original and honest: “Try to resist the temptation to scour the internet for jokes. That’s fine for a bit of inspiration, but if you lift a joke straight from Google, it’ll have been used thousands of times before and heard by millions – including half your audience. They’re much less likely to laugh if they heard all of your jokes at another wedding last month.”

It can be tempting to share private jokes but they don’t always go down well as Chris explains:

“Try to avoid in-jokes. While it may be part of your role to poke fun at a particular member of the wedding party, don’t do it in a way that alienates most of the room. If the groom’s parsnip phobia is really so crucial that it warrants a mention, tell everyone the story behind it; don’t just casually wave a parsnip about and leave a hundred people wondering why the blokes on the table at the front are wetting themselves.”

5. Consider Including Props or an Instrument

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Are you a talented guitarist? Would you feel more comfortable singing your speech? Don’t be afraid to mix it up and think outside the box.

For one of our favourite real weddings , the maid of honour taught herself ukulele to serenade the bride with a song all about their relationship.

The bride said: “She sang so beautifully about how our relationship has transformed and summed us up perfectly.”

If you’re not someone who can sing, why not include props in your speech instead? Visual aids that are funny and relevant can result in a lot of laughter! Make sure you practise your timings in advance.

6. Make it Personal

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Whilst it’s a good idea to pick up tips from the internet and take inspiration from other speeches you’ve heard, Adam believes you should ensure your speech is as honest as possible:

“Make it personal. Your guests have probably been to lots of weddings and may have heard your wedding jokes before. Be authentic. Practice it through after you’ve written it, does it come naturally to you? Would you engage with people that way outside of a wedding reception?”

7. Ask for Help

If you don’t feel confident in your speechwriting abilities, then look for inspiration and help online. We have an extensive collection of example wedding speeches which will give you plenty of ideas!

To get a sense of the sort of speeches you like and the style you may like to follow, spend some time exploring many of the weird and wonderful speeches on YouTube. Why not take inspiration from some of the most popular celebrity wedding speeches?

Consider enlisting some help in the form of a professional speechwriter. They can help put together a fantastic speech and fill you with confidence for the big day! We have some fantastic speechwriters in our suppliers directory .

8. Keep It Short and Sweet

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By writing your speech in advance, you can ensure it’s funny, interesting and, most importantly, concise!

You may have a lot to say but Adam says you don’t want your audience to get restless: “The longest part is making it short! It can be the best speech in the word but if your message has lost engagement due to its length, you may as well have said nothing!”

9. Write Something You Can Easily Memorise

When delivering a speech, it’s important to look at your audience, get the timing of your jokes right, and appear confident!

This often means memorising your speech and having cue cards with helpful hints if you lose your place.

Avoid reading the entertaining aspects of your speech from a piece of paper. However, if you think you’ll forget to thank someone important, write their name down!

10. Raise a Toast!

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It can be difficult to know how to end your wedding speech. Why not simply say thank you, and raise a toast to the newlyweds? This will make it clear that you’ve finished talking and get everyone in the mood for the next speech.

Once you’re armed with an amazing speech, make sure you can stay calm for the delivery with our article on how to overcome wedding speech nerves .

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Wedding Speech Writing & Coaching

Using my experience of working as a public speaker I have designed a range of workshops and courses to help individuals and Celebrants alike. Below you will find the current courses that I offer.

Written For You

Standing up in public making a speech can be terrifying experience for some but you want to deliver a memorable speech with confidence.

I support you by giving you confidence reducing any anxieties.  As a professional creative writer, I help write the content, having spoken with you understanding your vision, learning about you and the event, I write your speech remembering to include those all-important ‘thanks’ and put the content into your voice.   ‍

Improving Your Confidence to Deliver

After helping you write your speech, as a trained BBC public speaker I can coach you on 1:1 basis to increase your confidence giving you tips and opportunity to practice, or from attending my group professional speaking courses , so you stand up and give that speech without fear or worries, resulting in you sitting back with ease appreciating the round of applause from the guests!

Available to Groom, Bride, Parent of Groom or Bride, Bestman or Bestwoman, Maid of Honour, Bridesmaid, Groomsman or for any other role.   Available in any location across the UK.

This can be a stand-alone service from Amanda-Louise, or can be included in any of her packages.

Click below for free consultation to discover how I can help take your stress away and build confidence.

Packages to help you deliver confidently!

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Getting asked to speak at a wedding is exciting, but it can also be nerve-wracking, especially since you're not a professional speaker or speechwriter! So, if you're unsure how to write a wedding speech , know you're not alone. Whether you're a member of a wedding party or a parent or sibling of the soon-to-be-married couple, you may be wondering what to say in a wedding speech. However, that's where we come into the picture: Keep reading for a full rundown of wedding speech tips , insight and, last but not least, a fully written example that you can use as a guide. Happy speechwriting!

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Writing your wedding speech is no easy feat. To help ensure things go as smoothly as possible, we tapped into Renée Dalo, owner of Moxie Bright Events in Los Angeles, California. Below, she shares a step-by-step guide.

Brainstorm a great opening.

To captivate other guests' attention, Daloe recommends taking some time to brainstorm a great opening. For example, she says, "Try to resist saying, 'For those of you who don't know me, I'm Erica's sister, Michelle.'" Instead, skip this entirely in favor of something more fun and creative.

Start with a story.

…but be sure to make it a short one, says Dalo. "Make sure it's relevant to your friendship and/or the couple." When selecting what story to share, the wedding pro recommends sterling clear of any that involve ex-partners—and for that matter, anything negative about the newly married couple. "Even if you think it's funny , she says, "it's not." Instead, think of a special moment or fun memory you shared with the couple. What did it involve? What was so great about it? All of these things are worth considering as you jot down your wedding speech.

Share your well wishes.

After all, what would a wedding speech be if it didn't include some well wishes for the newlyweds? "Make sure to include both people in the couple in your remarks," advises Dalo.

End with a toast.

Cap off your speech on a fun and sentimental note by ending with an actual toast . Dalo recommends this foolproof example: "Please join me in raising a glass to the happy couple. Cheers to X and Y, and best wishes for a lifetime of laughter!" Afterward, go in for a hug with the couple, making for the perfect photo op !

Rehearse away.

After you write your speech down, spend a significant amount of time rehearsing it so that you feel confident and comfortable while giving the actual speech. "Don't try to wing it," says Dalo. "You're going to want to rehearse this [so that] you can be as calm and present as possible."

Still trying to figure out where to start? Don't fret: If you could use some additional assistance writing your wedding speech, consider Provenance , which helps users create personalized, meaningful wedding speeches using AI-powered tools along with real responses to personal questions.

Take the Provenance Toast Builder , for example. Couples can invite those who will be giving wedding speeches—including the father of the bride , mother of the bride , father of the groom , mother of the groom , maid of honor and best man —to use the Toast Builder. Upon being invited to use the platform, these individuals will "get alerted to how long their speech can be," as well as any other important information to mention—or steer clear of. "From there," says Provenance CEO Steven Greitzer, "you can see the status of the speech and the estimated length."

To help get those creative juices flowing, check out the below wedding speech example.

Hi! As Lisa's younger sister—and now maid of honor—I've had the unique privilege of growing up alongside her. Since we're just two years apart, we've been each other's built-in best friends from the start. Like most sisters, we bickered constantly throughout our childhood, hurling insults over clothing, makeup and missing pieces of jewelry: I'll finally admit it, Lisa, I was the one who lost your charm bracelet at summer camp! All kidding aside, I hope I've made it up to you with this epic speech.

When Lisa first met Jay on the train coming home from work (romantic, I know!), we lived together in a tiny one-bedroom apartment in the city, an experience that only brought us closer together. After their first date to their now-favorite pizza place, she came home all giddy—bubbly, smiling, and laughing. She told me that the two of them already planned their next date. I had never seen her so happy. The look in her eyes since that night has not faded, and if I know Jay—which I do!—he will make sure it never will.

Like Lisa, Jay is kind, patient, and compassionate, and this was evident from the first time we met, which was right before his and Lisa's second date. I ran to the door to catch a glimpse of the guy who was slowly but surely stealing my sister's heart. Upon meeting, Jay and I instantly hit it off. He greeted me by name, hugged me, and took the time to sit down and truly get to know me. Less than 10 minutes later, we were already cracking jokes. It was clear to me then that Jay was, without a doubt, my sister's perfect match.

Lisa and Jay, you've set the bar (very) high for all of your friends and family when it comes to relationship goals. The love and commitment you share with each other is inspiring and everlasting. I know Jay will spend the rest of his life making Lisa happy and supporting her through every endeavor—and I know she'll do the same, too.

So, Lisa and Jay, I wish you nothing but a lifetime of love and happiness together. And I'm so excited to have a front-row seat to all that's in store. Everyone, please join me in raising a glass to the newlyweds!

Keep it short and sweet.

According to Dalo, your wedding speech should be "no more than three minutes." She continues, telling The Knot, "Three minutes is a long time, and when you figure in getting up to the mic and then hugging afterward, it's about five minutes total which is ideal." If you go any longer, you run the risk of losing guests' attention and potentially boring them (a no-no in our book!).

Acknowledge both partners.

"A big speech taboo that we see way too often is when the person giving the speech only talks about the partner they're closest with, unintentionally making the other partner feel left out and unimportant," says Greitzer. If you need a helping hand, Greitzer recommends using the Provenance Toast Builder , which offers "thoughtful prompts to encourage you to share why they're both 1) good people and 2) a great match for each other."

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Hosts who have to entertain insiders at the ceremony and outsiders watching at home. Presenters who change their minds. No wonder the bits are awkward.

By Jason Zinoman

In the middle of struggling through the opening monologue of the Golden Globes in January, the comic Jo Koy did something unusual, if not unprecedented, for the host of a major awards show: He blamed the writers .

“I wrote some of these — and they’re the ones you’re laughing at,” he said of his jokes, prompting writers across the country to grind their teeth.

Koy, who later apologized , endured some light mockery a week after the show, when his ex-girlfriend Chelsea Handler followed up a successful joke in her monologue at the Critics Choice Awards by saying, “Thank you for laughing at that. My writers wrote it.”

If something positive came from this episode, it’s that a spotlight was put on a corner of the showbiz work force that tends to remain in the shadows: the joke writers for awards shows like the Oscars on Sunday.

“It’s a small fraternity, and they always remained anonymous,” said Bruce Vilanch, the best known of this breed, who said his acclaim for the job, which included starring in the 1999 documentary “ Get Bruce! ,” had spurred resentment among his predecessors. “They were not personalities in their own way. They never talked about this stuff. I think there was almost a code.”

Indeed, two of the three veterans who wrote jokes for the Golden Globes monologue declined to comment for this article, and a third didn’t respond to a request. While the hosts get all the attention, the writers do work that is less understood and equally tricky, requiring skill, self-awareness and even diplomacy.

Not only do writers not get much credit if things go well, they also don’t always get to attend. Megan Amram wrote for the disastrous host pair James Franco and Anne Hathaway at the 2011 Oscars and didn’t get a ticket to the ceremony. “James and Anne didn’t have the same, let’s say, creative taste,” she told me, using the kind of careful language you hear from this class of writers to describe the challenges they face. Those include the balancing act of finding jokes that will kill both in the room and on television, for audiences of vastly diverse demographics.

Amram, who later wrote for the host Jimmy Kimmel at the 2018 Academy Awards, likens writing jokes for the Oscars to giving a best man’s speech at the world’s biggest wedding. “You want it to be a little bit edgy, but not so much that it turns off the grandparents.”

Inside the ceremonies, the audiences are tough: self-conscious, nervous and, as the night unfolds and more of them lose, in a souring mood. Robert Wuhl, a comic and actor who wrote for Billy Crystal when he hosted the Oscars, thinks that there shouldn’t even be comedy bits after the monologue. “It stops the show cold,” he said. “It’s not our show. Do the first eight to 10 minutes and get out of the way. It’s already too long.”

Kimmel, who is back as host of the Oscars on Sunday, benefits from bringing his late-night staff, which knows his voice. There are generally two sets of awards show writers: those who work for the host and those who write for the presenters and others on the show, and the two teams rarely intermingle. Compared with the Globes, which used three writers for the host and five overall, there is a small army for the Academy Awards on Sunday — about two dozen.

One of them, the comic Jesse Joyce , said he once wrote an entire Tonys monologue for Kevin Spacey by himself despite never seeing a single show on Broadway that year. He said awards show bits demand a more formal style. In late night or standup, he explained, you gum up the language to make it seem conversational. “There’s a polish to award show jokes,” he added. “I think it’s a better showcase for sharp, precise jokes, so I kind of admire it on a clinical skill level.”

If writing for hosts can feel like an abstract exercise in joke construction, working for presenters is all about navigating real-world chaos.

Dave Boone , who has won three Emmys and has worked on 120 shows since 1998, spoke nostalgically of the days when the producer Buz Kohan , maybe the most storied figure among these writers, would call Gregory Peck or Sophia Loren and knock out a few amusing lines.

Now nearly every joke goes through a battalion of publicists, managers, even spouses. Some stars ask for bits but then never do them. Others agree but get cold feet at the last moment. Then there are the ones who insist on ad-libbing — and blame the writers on air when their jokes don’t land.

“What’s sometimes frustrating is when you get a note from a talent manager who says, ‘We don’t want to mention the superhero movie, and he doesn’t want to be funny,’” Boone said. “And then the talent shows up on the day and says, ‘You know, this is kind of dry. Wouldn’t it be funnier if I came out in a superhero outfit?’”

Boone said the job there is to bite your tongue. But this is what leads to stilted banter. “Unfortunately, there have been so many awkward moments that have been water-cooler conversation that award shows can get a bad rap.”

Boone’s favorite show is the Tony Awards , for which he has been the head writer for the last 18 years. It’s not because the participants understand performing live (though they do), but because theater people respect the word of the playwright. He fondly recalled the time James Earl Jones contacted him to ask about adding a comma to make a line read better.

Renee Gauthier, who was one of two people writing material for presenters at the Globes, said the only person who didn’t have any notes was Oprah Winfrey. When Koy criticized his writers, Gauthier, who had also submitted monologue jokes, told me her phone blew up with texts from outraged comics. “I didn’t think it was cool for that to be said about writers,” she said. “But as a comedian I understand. He kind of freaked out and got in his head.” She added: “I forgive him.”

Ironically, part of the problem may have been a failure to listen to writers. Gauthier said they suggested Koy begin with a self-deprecating joke drawing attention to his status as a relative unknown next to Meryl Streep, Martin Scorsese and other major Hollywood figures in the room. Gauthier’s version was something like: “I know you don’t know who I am, but I know exactly who you are.” Echoing many of the writers I talked to, she said he would have been helped by poking fun at himself. “Jo Koy is known, but this is an A-list party. They aren’t all your peers.”

Then again, writers tend to understand their place in the pecking order better than star hosts. Koy might have been unknown to some in the audience, but as a stand-up, he regularly packs arenas. He opened by saying how thrilled he was to be there, then added that it’s “a dream come true not just for me but everybody in here.”

Vilanch, asked what he would have done, said, “The whole monologue would have been: Who am I and why am I here?”

He also expressed sympathy for Koy, pointing to the shots of stars not laughing. “Did he really need the reaction of Taylor Swift to swiftly bring condemnation upon his soul?” he said.

Jason Zinoman is a critic at large for The Times. As the paper’s first comedy critic, he has written the On Comedy column since 2011. More about Jason Zinoman

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Oscar winner David Seidler, writer of The King’s Speech, has died aged 86

Screenwriter who had stammer as a child wrote script about George VI, played by Colin Firth, overcoming speech impediment

David Seidler, best known for his Oscar-winning writing on The King’s Speech, has died aged 86, according to reports.

The London-born screenwriter, who had a stammer growing up, was inspired to write about the true story of how King George VI overcame his speech impediment with a speech and language therapist.

US outlets reported that the British writer died on Saturday, during a fly-fishing trip in New Zealand, according to his manager, Jeff Aghassi.

Aghassi said: “David was in the place he loved most in the world – New Zealand – doing what gave him the greatest peace, which was fly fishing. If given the chance, it is exactly as he would have scripted it.”

Seidler won the Oscar and Bafta award for best original screenplay for the 2010 historical drama, which starred Colin Firth , who won the best actor Bafta and Oscar for his depiction of the king. The project was also awarded the best picture Oscar and won best film and outstanding British film at the Baftas.

Seidler was also behind the stage adaptation of the film, which opened in the West End in 2012.

Throughout his career, Seidler wrote on a plethora of projects, including the animated children’s musicals The King and I, Quest for Camelot and Madeline: Lost in Paris.

Seidler won his first Writers’ Guild award for the 1988 biopic Onassis: The Richest Man in the World starring Raul Julia as the Greek shipping magnate Aristotle Onassis. He also cowrote Francis Ford Coppola’s 1988 comedy drama Tucker: The Man and His Dream.

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